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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Howdoyou tell someone you love that they are ruining your life? My mother has dealt with mental illness, ad- diction and depression for most of her life. This came to a climax when I was in high school, result- ing in legal trouble, di- vorce, rehab and losing the people closest to her. I was very angry at her, but have now grown to realize that she is a victim of an illness. With that being said, it has gotten to the point (10 years later) where I am basically her parent, therapist, bank, chauf- feur, etc. She tells me about how she wants to die, how unhappy she is, and how everything is ev- eryone else's fault, while she sits around with no job and does nothing to improve her lifestyle. She makes no effort to make herself happy while complaining to me every day how miserable she is. Everyone else in the family has shut her out but I feel too guilty to do something like that, and because I am worried she may take her own life. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks and struggle to keep myself in a positive frame of mind. I don't know how to tell my mom that all of her constant negativity is really bringing me down and piling on my own mental illnesses. I have tried to express this to her but it does not seem to work. I understand she is dealing with serious issues, but she is taking a toll on my own happiness. —DAC DEAR DAC » Talking to your mother about her behavior's impact on you would have a limited impact in terms of getting her to change. If she is depressed and suffering from other challenges, she may not be willing or able to make big changes for your sake. I hope you will con- centrate on yourself. You have been a very good child, but at this point, you have become part of your mother's illness. Be- cause you are functioning for her, she has no incen- tive to try to function. You must seek pro- fessional mental health services for yourself. You have a duty to try your hardest to be healthy, in order to create boundar- ies with your mother. Taking good care of your- self may necessitate that you keep some distance. You should take these im- portant steps guided by a counse lor, a nd also atte nd Al-anon meetings, where you can learn about creat- ing healthy boundaries. DEAR AMY » "Furious Mom" was upset that her son was a lazy slob. It is wrong to blame the parents. The kid has a serious problem — basi- cally he is a slob. This is not the parents' fault. Stop blaming parents for e v er yt hi ng ! K i d s n ee d to take responsibility. — Roz DEAR ROZ » In this letter, the parents laid out a very neat path, leading from their parenting style directly to their son's hor- rible habits. Their refusal to do anything other than complain about their son is lazy parenting. Child of mentally ill mother must learn about boundaries You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Gemini(May21-June20)— Don't let other people limit you. If you do your own thing, you'll bring about the changes that are in your best interest. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Be brave and show off your unique nature. Do what works best for you. Move things around until your living space accommodates your lifestyle. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Don't let anyone play mind games with you. Stick to the truth in order to deter anyone trying to guilt you into doing something you don't want to do. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Knowledge and experience will work in your favor. Set up a meeting, interview or an im- portant talk with someone you need on your team. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Plan to have some fun. A brief trip or a change to your sur- roundings will give you a new lease on life. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing some- thing unsafe. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Your kindness, generosity and unusual insight will pay off. If you volunteer to help, it will lead to a better position. Apply for a job that intrigues you. Sagittarius (Nov. 23- Dec. 21) — Keep your life simple and avoid getting into a dispute with someone looking for a fight or trying to make you look bad. Focus on self- awareness. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Don't feel pressured to make an impulsive move. Use your intelligence, integrity and experience, and follow through with your plans at your own speed. Home improvements are favored. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Pay attention to matters concerning your home, family and personal life. Make physi- cal changes that will add to your confidence and make your domestic situation more conve- nient and comfortable. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — If you share your ideas with a former colleague, you will get the necessary help to turn your dream into a reality. A romantic situation will disappoint you. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Take on a challenge that will motivate you to get in shape and aim for a healthy lifestyle. A commitment to making personal improvements will lead to hap- piness and reduced stress. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Get involved in talks that will bring about change at work or in your community. Being a participant will put you in a good position both socially and professionally. Horoscope By Eugenia Last THURSDAY, JUNE 2 THURSDAY,JUNE2,2016 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B