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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mysonand daughter-in-law are sepa- rated. My son is in county jail awaiting sentencing. His wife has moved on. She is currently living a great distance from us. There is a child. I love this child dearly, but now cannot see her due to the distance (and other consider- ations). The mom has served my son with papers for full custody. I am so sad. How do I deal with my disappointment? —SadGrandma DEAR SAD » Given that your son is in jail, the mother should have full custody, and as the child's grandparents, you should embrace whatever is best for the girl. You don't mention having any relationship with the child's mother, but you should make a heroic effort to stay in touch. Tell her that you respect her choice and that you want whatever is best for your grandchild. Ask her to email photos and do your best to be supportive grandparents. The child's mother has an ethical obligation to honor your relationship with her child, but she has no legal obligation. Given the circumstances, she may blame you for some of your son's choic- es. If your son's crime is a violent one, then divorc- ing him might be best. You need to own this, and hold this child in your heart — even if she isn't in your daily life. DEAR AMY » Last year my husband and I traveled to visit our son and his family. The visit was not a friendly one. My daughter-in-law made herself unavailable. She was never rude but never at home. My son always made excuses ("she is tired, has a headache, needs to visit her mom next door, etc."). Finally, my son told me that I had hurt her feelings. The first night we were there I ma de a comment about how much weight I had gained. My daughter-in- law got mad because she assumed I was not talking about myself, but about her. Nothing could be further from the truth. I would never comment on someone else's weight. We were not invited back last Christmas and have not seen them since. The problem is we have been invited to visit again. I am dreading it. What if I say something else that sets her off? Vis- iting for a whole week is a long time to be neglected. She always seems to be not on speaking terms with someone in her life. She is very sensitive. How should I handle this? — Worried MIL DEAR MIL » A week IS a long time to be neglected, unless you are being ne- glected by someone who is sensitive and unpleas- ant. In that case, neglect should come as a relief. It is best not to expect anything specific of your daughter-in-law. Ask your son to be frank with you about things you can do to make this visit easier. During your visit, be a great guest and concen- trate on building positive memories with your son. Jail time and divorce sever grandparent ties to a child You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Taurus(April20-May20)— Use your charm and intelligence to get the attention of someone who can help you expand your interests. Celebrate with some- one you love. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Don't go into any charged situation or debate without be- ing fully prepared. Someone will try to damage your reputation. Be on guard. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Do your own thing and enjoy interacting with onlookers who support your efforts. Rewards will be offered and promises made. 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Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Size up your situation and ob- serve what others do, but don't follow the crowd. A personal venture involving your home or other assets will lead to finan- cial gain and spark celebration. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Complaints can be expected if you disagree with a friend, neighbor or relative. It's best to keep your thoughts to your- self and your mind on personal changes. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Call on someone from your past who has helped you or who owes you a favor. Don't rely on anyone who wants to call the shots or tries to pressure you into something unorthodox. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Gather information and learn as you go. Your ability to finish what you start will lead to the gains you are hoping to achieve. Initiate change and follow through on your plans. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, MAY 7 SATURDAY, MAY 7, 2016 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B