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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»I'vebeen married for five years to a wonderful, funny and very hardworking man. We have one child, who just turned a year old. We live 10 hours away from my family/friends and five hours away from my in-laws. My husband travels for his job, so most of the time it's just me and our son at home — some- times for weeks at a time. When my husband is home, he isn't helpful with our son. I brushed it off when our baby was a newborn, thinking he was nervous about hurt- ing the baby, or simply didn't know what to do. But after a year of doing everything by myself I'm getting frustrated! Even when my son is napping and I want to run to get groceries, my husband will ask me to wait until he wakes up and take him with me. The very few times I left him with our son (never for more than an hour) I will return and smell poop and ask if he changed his diaper. He'll shrug and say, "You didn't tell me to." He gives me the same answer if I ask if he fed him, gave him a bottle, etc. At bedtime when I ask for a hand, he suddenly has to run to the store. He does play, chase him around and reads him books, but I still need a hand for the day-to-day care, especially because we are so far from family. How can I encourage him? How can I get help without nagging? —Overwhelmed DEAR OVERWHELMED » It is not unusual to feel un- com fortab le doin g hands - on baby care, if you aren't home often enough for these things to become second nature. Because he isn't in the home consistently, you will have to basically train him in basic baby care and proactively promote bonding. Celebrate their special relationship and keep your own expecta- tions realistic. When you two go out together with your baby, find another task to do and ask your husband to get the baby dressed. Don't criticize any choices he makes and, if he asks for help, answer his ques- tions, but don't jump in. Post a very simple "baby schedule" on your fridge and leave your husband with his son for longer than an hour. He can (and will) figure this out to some extent, but because he is away and working very hard, you will have to understand that he is already per- forming a very important parental function, which is to support his family. DEAR AMY » I'm weigh- ing in on the impact of grandparents "playing favorites" with their grandchildren. My kids all knew that their grandmother favored their cousins. It was completely obvious. As they grew older, they cared less and less — and that's the worst part, in a way. Their grandmother is now older and needier and could use some attention. — Sad but True DEAR SAD » Extreme fa- voritism hurts all parties. 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