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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»IthoughtI had the perfect marriage until I met "Brian" about three years ago. I instantly felt a con- nection and attraction to him. I try my hardest not to feel this way. I don't see him very often (we work together), but I can't shake these feelings. We have spoken about the mutual attraction between us and have kissed once. He doesn't do anything to encourage a relation- ship between us, and neither do I. He is in the process of getting divorced and I know he doesn't want to come between my hus- band and me. I just can't stop think- ing about him — even if I don't see him for months at a time. I'm becoming numb and depressed at home and I don't know how to change these feelings. I can't talk to anyone about this. I feel ashamed, guilty and embarrassed. I've been married for 26 years and have never thought about another man before. How can I stop these feelings? —Sad DEAR SAD » You say that you and "Brian" have not done anything to encourage a relation- ship, b-u-u-u-t ... sharing intimacies, complaining about your marriage and — hello — kissing are all choices that foster an intimate relationship be- tween two people, while also interfering with your respective marriages. Your reaction now — feeling depressed, numb and ashamed about your work relationship — will also interfere with your marriage. You are having an emotional affair, and it doesn't matter how often you actually see this other person because your emotions are running the show. If you want to save your marriage, then you will have to re-engage with your husband and be very intentional about try- ing to repair and recom- mit to him. You cannot do that and have any contact with this other person, because the contact trig- gers the cycle. The best way to deal with this is to invite your husband to strategize about how to improve your marriage. Counsel- ing can help. DEAR AMY » I'm respond- ing to "Desperate Parent," who wanted to control her daughter's major in college. We supported our daughter through col- lege — both emotionally and financially. We never criticized her choices. They belonged to her. One year out of college, with a year of full-time work under her belt (she was offered two jobs the first week after gradua- tion), she is off to nursing school at an Ivy League college. She did this all entirely by herself. Are we proud? You bet. To the worried mother I say: Let her go! — P ro ud Mo m DEAR MOM » If the student is doing well, I agree that parents should suggest but not dictate academic choices. Co-worker's emotional affair interferes with her marriage You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. 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Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Your astute way of dealing with domestic and work-related situations will give you the edge if someone challenges you. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Be responsible. The less you complain, the easier it will be to finish what's expected of you. Then you can move on to activities that promise adven- ture and excitement with a clear conscience. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Sharing ideas will prompt a couple of crucial changes in a project that you are involved with. Don't take a backseat to someone who is all talk and no action. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Impulsiveness will be your downfall. Don't give in to emo- tional whims or spend money you don't have. Discipline, fit- ness and a proper diet should be your goals. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — A lifestyle change will go part and parcel with a developing partnership. If you share your thoughts, you'll come up with a plan that will benefit everyone. 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