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When I put up with this (not silently) — am I being an enabler? —CuriousMom DEAR CURIOUS » Yes, you are enabling your husband to stay drunk during times when he might otherwise have to stay sober. Mind you, whenever you take care of your chil- dren — you are simply seeing to their needs and you should feel good about that. This is what parenting is all about. But what would your family do if you weren't there? What would your hus- band do if you decided to get an evening job, or if you decided to get drunk yourself one evening? You are the main person feeling uncom- fortable over this whole situation and one way to stop enabling is to try to spread out the discomfort and share it with others who are impacted by your husband's drinking. Let's say you decide to tell your family, "I will very happily drive on Mondays, Wednes- days and Fridays. Dad is r e s po ns i b le f or t he o th er days." Your husband either has to stay sober, or he will have to go through the process of finding someone other than you to drive the kids. If the children are put out or made uncomfortable by this restriction, they can tell their father how they feel and he can explain to them why he isn't avail- able when they need him. I certainly hope you and your children avail yourselves of Al-Anon and Alateen meetings. Alateen has helped many young people try to make sense of a parent's drinking. Check al-anon.org for the location of meetings near you. Perhaps your husband could drive his children to a meeting. DEAR AMY » I'm respond- ing to "Sisyphus," the mil- lennial who had to redo their work because of an older co-worker's techno- logical error. Sisyphus should just move on and not say anything. Think of that co-work- er as job security. — One of the Old Guys DEAR GUY » You are implying that the younger worker absorbing the older worker's mistakes will somehow protect the younger worker. How- ever, in my experience, these days older workers are frequently let go first, taking their (implied) protection with them. Mom wonders how to put drinking dad in driver's seat You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Aries(March21-April19) — Someone from a different background will give you an in- teresting perspective on an old concept. Romance will change your personal direction. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Someone will not see things your way, leading to an unex- pected decision that will alter your plans. Retreat to rethink your next move. 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Your vision will interest some- one who has the qualities you require to reach your goal. Don't give too much away. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Don't hide your feelings or plans. If someone doesn't like what you are doing, it would be best to address his or her concerns openly so that you are free to move forward without interference. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Do what you can to help others, but don't get involved in joint ventures, make donations or lend cash or possessions. Of- fer advice, direction and helpful connections, nothing more. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Check out the job market. Getting together with people you have worked or played with in the past will spark an interest in something you have to offer. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — A partnership will give you the edge you need to get a project up and running. If you share your ideas and are open to suggestions, success will be yours. 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