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FEATURES past five years, I've been with the most wonderful woman. ''Jane'' and I plan to marry, but we haven't set a date because she has two adult daughters who still live at home, and their future plans are unsettled. Her younger daughter, Dear Annie: For the ''Trudi,'' is 24 and recover- ing from a debilitating gambling problem. Trudi lost her job, got caught stealing family heirlooms and was arrested for drunk driving. Jane eventually kicked her out. Trudi bounced from place to place, landed at a homeless shelter, met an irresponsible young man and got pregnant. At that point, Jane made the difficult decision to bring Trudi back home so she could help raise her grandchild. Trudi is sober and no longer gam- bling, and she has become a trusted member of the household again. (The father of the baby is not in the picture.) Trudi hasn't had much opportunity to look for a job. Jane works all day and then goes home to take care of her granddaughter. The other daughter is busy with work, school and a serious boyfriend. She does not take much interest in her niece. Things actually worked out. In the past 18 months, intimate relations with Jane have steadily declined. Menopause is a factor, but it's mostly because she has a lot on her plate. She hasn't been to my house in months, and when I'm at Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar hers, I try to care for the baby so Jane can sit down and rest. I feel like our rela- tionship is slipping away. We've talked briefly about it, but I simply want more than Jane can give. Is this just a rough patch, or is this our new relationship? — Too Much Dear Too Much: You sound like a good guy who is trying to help with a stressful situation. Raising a baby is exhausting, and we are certain that Jane appreciates your patience and assistance. Instead of pressuring her for intima- cy, ask what she thinks you can do to improve your relationship. She will always have two daughters and a grandchild. Decide whether you can handle that. Dear Annie: For 30 years, my cousins and I were good friends. We went places together and had lunch- es. They seemed to enjoy the gath- erings as much as I did. About three years ago, they stopped calling to make a date, leaving it up to me. Not long after that, I discovered they were meeting with my nieces, but not including me. I didn't understand the reason, but tried not to let it bother me. Now they are including the nieces' hus- bands, and I'm still not part of the festivities. cized. Family has always been important to me, and I have strived to be a congenial person. Most peo- ple seem to enjoy my company. Do I am deeply hurt and feel ostra- Thursday, May 17, 2012 – Daily News 5A Beau frustrated by grandma's busy life I pretend this is OK, or do I ignore their existence like they do with me? — Outcast Dear Outcast: We can see how this would be hurtful, but let's give them the benefit of the doubt. They may simply be waiting for you to schedule the next dinner date and, in the meantime, are enjoying their nieces' company. Pick up the phone, tell them it's been bothering you and ask whether there is a prob- lem that can be resolved. Dear Annie: I think you missed an opportunity in your response to ''Jim in Peoria,'' who says his wife won't let him help around the house. and even though money is apparent- ly not a problem, he needs to feel that he is valued. You should have suggested that he find a nonprofit organization that needs volunteers. He might be able to get work that is related to whatever he did in his previous career, and this might even lead to a paying job down the line. In any case, it is a win-win-win: Jim wins, the nonprofit wins, and his wife wins by having a happier hus- band and fewer arguments. — Been There Jim is involuntarily unemployed, Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Women's club installs new officers Special to the DN The Maywood Woman's Club celebrated its May 2 Spring Time Luncheon with the Installation of a new slate of officers serving a two year term from 2012 through 2014. Past Shasta District President and long time member of the California Federation of Women's Clubs, Lorraine Seale-Hib- don, preformed the Hawai- ian Themed Installation, standing left to right are in coming Auditor, Joan Whit- ing; Parliamentarian, Ruby Rodgers; Treasurer, Mar- lene Mason; Second Vice President, Emma Rivas, First Vice President, Mari- lyn Bright and President Toni Lima-Miller. Not pic- tured, in coming Secretary, Jenell Cook. Highlights during the luncheon included a found farewell to departing Presi- dent Catherine Joseph who received a traditional gift of a beautiful tea pot and many thank yous for a job well done for her term of the past two years. Medication can help fight yeast infections TOR K: I have a vaginal yeast infec- tion. The itching and burning are unbearable. How should I treat it? And how did I get it in the first place? DEAR READ- DEAR DOC- ER: Vaginal yeast infections are caused by a fungus that is usually present in small amounts on our skin, particularly moist areas such as under the breasts and in the groin. They also are pre- sent in small numbers in the vagina. Sometimes the amount of fungus increases, causing a yeast infection. Women are more suscep- Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. ication. These med- icines are usually inserted directly into the vagina as tablets, creams, ointments or sup- positories. These medications include: — butoconazole (Femstat); Canesten); — clotrimazole (Clotrimaderm, — miconazole (Moni- stat, Monazole, Micozole); — nystatin (several brand names); — tioconazole (GyneCure); zole). tible to vaginal yeast infec- tions when their bodies are under stress. The cause of this stress might be poor diet, lack of sleep, illness, pregnancy or taking antibi- otics. (The antibiotics kill off bacteria that compete with the fungus, helping the fungus to multiply.) — terconazole (Tera- People with diabetes also are more susceptible, though no one seems to know why. The explanation I've sometimes heard — that the fungus thrives on the higher levels of sugar in the body — doesn't seem likely to me. You're already familiar with the burning and itching that accompanies vaginal yeast infections. You may also experience vaginal soreness or a thick, white, cheese-like discharge. The first priority is to treat your infection. With proper treatment, it should be gone within a few days. If this is your first vaginal infection, visit your doctor, who should confirm that your symptoms are caused by yeast and not by some other condition. A single dose of flucona- zole (Diflucan Oral), pre- scribed by your doctor and taken by mouth, can also help. But this treatment is not recommended during pregnancy. Once you've treated your current infection, do the fol- lowing to prevent future yeast infections: — Keep your outer geni- tal area clean and dry. — Avoid irritating soaps (including bubble bath), vaginal sprays and douches. — Change tampons and sanitary napkins frequently. — Wear loose cotton underwear that doesn't trap moisture. — After swimming, change quickly into dry clothing. — Take antibiotics only when prescribed by your doctor — and never for longer than your doctor directs. keep tight control over your blood sugar levels. — If you are diabetic, Dr. Komaroff is a If this is not your first episode, you can treat your yeast infection with an over- the-counter antifungal med- physician and professor at Harvard Medical School.To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Man freed on bond but must The afternoon held another Maywood Woman's Club tradition, the recognition of Past Pres- idents. Current club mem- bers who have held the office of President include, Anne Mendonsa, Past Pres- ident of Santa Cruz and the Anderson Women's Club; Lorriane Hicks and Jewell Mountain, the Red Bluff Women's Club; and Gloria Church, Sharon Sequeira, Elaine A. Davis and Linda Daniels-Lima who have all held the office of President of the Maywood Woman's Club. A special tribute to Sierra Sound Car Audio 35th $ 226 So. Main St., Red Bluff 527-3735 All CD's 13.99 Anniversary Sale or less Shasta District Awards were also presented to club members and include a Best of Show Award to Becky Lima, and first place honors to Cookie Brown and Joan Whiting with their art work. Other district awards include top honors in Advo- cates for Children, Wini Peterson; Arts Partnership, Cookie Brown; Communi- cation and Identity, Linda Lima; Conservation, Wini Peterson; Domestic Vio- incoming President Toni Lima-Miller, by sister and fellow club member, Becky Lima was the reciting of the poem, "The Woman I call Sister", along with a beautiful bouquet of roses. A Spring Time Flower Theme was created by Chairman Gena Bowen who organized the lun- cheon. lence Prevention, Toni Lima-Miller; Education, Gena Bowen; International Outreach, Cookie Brown; Leadership, Catherine Joseph; Legislation and Public Policy, Linda Lima; Public Issues, Carol Bor- deau; Women's History and Membership, Tony Miller- Lima. All awards will com- pete state wide during the California Federated of Women's Club's Conven- tion to be held in Burbank, on May 17-20. 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The San Francisco Chronicle reports (http://bit.ly/JEa7BI ) that under the bond order, Mob- ley would be required to spend an hour reading and a half hour writing each day as he awaits trial on robbery and assault charges. Mobley and two others are accused of arranging to sell a grenade launcher for $1,000 to an undercover fed- eral agent in Richmond, Calif. Hutcherson was shot and wounded by agents during the alleged meeting. ——— Information from: San Francisco Chronicle, http://www.sfgate.com