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FEATURES Dear Annie: Last year, our youngest brother, ''Don,'' was diagnosed with throat cancer. Within three months, it had spread over his entire body. with two children. When he was initially diagnosed and having a terrible time, his wife told people he was act- ing like a big baby. He drove himself to treatments or had a neighbor or broth- er-in-law take him. When the treatments didn't help, he had to give up his job. His wife told the rest of us that her husband didn't want to see us, although her family was allowed to stop by. She and her son (by a previous mar- riage) told Don that they were tak- ing him for a drive, and she dumped him at the hospice about 40 miles away from home, even though there is a perfectly good one much clos- er. Don is only 58, married Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Four days later, she called my sis- ter and said they had to do this because Don's condition was so bad. The next day, my sister went to visit. She said Don was alert, but very depressed. His wife had had the phone removed from his room. Don had no idea that his family and co- workers had been trying to reach him. The co-workers had even taken up donations to help. He thought no one cared. Now his wife has told the staff that he cannot have any guests unless she brings them. The workers dren are invited to ride their horses at Dye Creek Preserve in Los Molinos, on Saturday, May 19 on a 37,540 acre working cattle ranch. Checkin time is 9- 10 a.m., with last riders leaving at 10 a.m, Chair- woman Tiffany Holbrook said. Men, women and chil- Dear Indianapolis: This sounds like a nightmare. Hospice follows the instruc- tions of the person with power of attorney. Try con- tacting the social worker at hospice and ask whether someone will check on Don to see whether he can receive phone calls. If your brother is of sound mind, he can ask for the phone to be put back in his room. And if you can temporarily set aside your differences with Don's wife, call her and ask whether there is anything you can do to help, and whether you can accompany her to see Don. We hope the entire fam- ily will support one another through this. at hospice are only following the wife's wishes and have threatened to call security on family members who try to visit. What can be done about a person so evil that she would allow him to die alone like this? — Indi- anapolis extremely overweight. He has back problems, and his knees ache. I have discussed the dangers of heart prob- lems, the increased chance of dia- betes, etc., but he really doesn't care. Unfortunately, it has affected the Dear Annie: My husband is way I look at him. Seeing his belly folding over his belt is NOT a turn- on. It is disturbing to see the one you love neither care what he looks like nor see what he is doing to our mar- riage. How can I get him to realize the severity of this? — Concerned Thursday, May 3, 2012 – Daily News 5A Dying man's wife is isolating him knows he is overweight, but the idea of diet and exercise is probably more effort than he is currently will- ing to put forth. Your criticisms are not going to create an incentive, so please find another tack. He should see his doctor about his weight and perhaps get a referral to a nutrition- ist. If you are in charge of the meals at home, make sure they are health- ful. Invite him to join you for a walk after dinner or any other activity that is pleasurable. Above all, he needs to know you love him regardless, and that your concern is because you want him around longer, not because you want him to be more attractive in bed. We know that is not a trifling matter, but please start from a less pressured place. Dear Annie: ''Michigan'' said the boss took a portion of the tips from the waitstaff. I have been a server for 25 years. The hourly rate is often less than $4. I have been required to share my tips with the busboy, the bartender and even other servers. Never have I known of a business owner taking a portion. This is highly unethical. — Hard Worked and Broke Dear Concerned: Your husband Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Dye Creek Preserve trail ride scheduled Autism studies yield exciting results TOR K: I've heard that scientists have discovered genes that cause autism. Could this lead to a cure? DEAR DOC- DEAR READ- ER: Autism is a disorder of child development. Kids with autism have difficulty commu- nicating and forming social relationships. The studies you are referring to identify genes that increase the risk of autism, and could some- day lead to a cure. I think of these studies as the first steps down what is going to be a long road. Never- theless, they are genuinely exciting. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. sperm) are more likely to lead to autism than muta- tions in the moth- er's genes (in the egg). Further- more, mutations in the father's genes are more likely as the father gets older. of the genes that were mutated in the children with autism were genes that are important to brain development. So it made sense that mutations in these genes could lead to autism. More impor- tant, virtually all Reservations are required, and deadline is May 11. For more infor- mation and forms, visit www.TehamaCountyCat- tleWomen.org, send an email to ride4ranching@yahoo.co m or call 727-8055. The ride is easy to mod- erately easy. A wide and clear trail, mostly ranch road type of trail. A lot of small rocks, some up hill/downhill areas, but nothing too steep. Three studies were recently published in the scientific journal Nature. Cell samples from 549 families were included. In each family, one child was autistic, but the parents and siblings were not. Each study determined the sequence of every gene in every individual. Think of a gene as a string of pearls. Each "pearl" is one of four different nucleic acids, which are the building blocks of genes. The sequence of those nucleic acids deter- mines what the effect of the gene will be. Even 10 years ago such a study would have been impossibly expen- sive and taken hundreds of years to complete. However, new technolo- gies now make it possible to sequence genes much faster, and for a tiny frac- tion of the cost. All three research groups found very strong evidence that the autistic children had suffered seri- ous mutations, or alter- ations, in at least three specific genes. The stud- ies also found strong evi- dence of a role for another group of genes. Courtesy photo Estimated trail comple- tion is 2 -3 hours depend- ing on which is loop taken and the speed of your horse. Minors are allowed needed Help is wanted with the Children's Activi- ties at the 10th Annual Country Faire and Threshing Bee. Do you know how to play marbles or embroidery? Volun- teers needed to show children how to do these activities. Children's activities helpers are Lori Sheehy, Wendy Aria, Sandy Hayes and Julie Sisneros on the first Tehama County CattleWomen's Trail Ride. to participate, but must wear a helmet and be accompanied by a parent or guardian at all times. This is a fund raiser for TCCW scholarship pro- gram. Cost is $ 40 includ- ing lunch, or lunch only is $ 15. The mutations were not found in the parents or non-autistic siblings. So the mutations must have occurred in the DNA of the egg or the sperm that created the child with autism. The studies also indi- cated that mutations in the father's genes (in the These new research studies are exciting. They sampled a relatively large number of families. And they all came to very sim- ilar conclusions — which strongly suggests their findings are correct. The studies do not identify "the cause" of autism. There are going to be many more genes involved. However, the identification of these genes will make it simpler to search for other genes related to autism. Like most diseases, autism is likely caused not just by genes but also by factors in the environ- ment. (My colleague Dr. Martha Herbert explains this in her wonderful new book, "The Autism Revo- lution." You can learn more about it at AskDoc- torK.com.) Not every child in these studies with these gene mutations was autistic. It often takes environmental factors to reveal genetic vulnerabili- ty. It will take time, but I think these studies will lead to improved diagno- sis and treatment. It reminds me of what Win- ston Churchill said at the end of the Battle of Britain: "This is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end. But it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning." Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Teachers workshop offered Saturday in Redding This will a part of the 10th Annual Coun- try Faire and Threshing Bee. For suggestion of historic children activi- ties contact the Patrick Ranch Museum at (530) 342-4359 or Linda Gidley at yock- ey002@gmail.com. Nanoscale science and engineering is mak- ing a huge impact in the scientific community. How will these new dis- coveries affect the gen- eral public? Will this technology supply clean drinking water for the world? What are the risks involved with manipulating things on the nanoscale? On May 5, Turtle Bay Exploration Park will host a Nanoscience Teacher Professional Development Workshop featuring Lizzie Hager- Barnard, Education Spe- cialist at Lawrence Hall of Science at UC Berke- ley. Hager-Barnard will engage teachers with current scientific infor- mation and hands-on training in nanoscience activities to use in their Lantino Outreach of Tehama County Latino Outreach of Tehama County presents.... Multi-Cultural Celebration May 5th from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. Tehama District Fairgrounds Cinco de Mayo 14th Annual ★ Health ★ Local Community Services Information Food ★ Entertainment ★ Children's Activities classrooms. "This is a great opportunity for teachers to get first hand infor- mation about this new scientific area," said Mary Harper, Education and Programs Manager. "The activities they learn will help to increase their students' knowledge about this cutting edge science." Teachers will also be introduced to three classroom nanoscience kits with hands-on activities that will be available for them to check out. This free workshop is from 9 a.m. to noon and open to 3rd -8th grade teachers. For more information call 242-3108. For the general pub- lic, Lizzie will present Nano 101: Exploring the Nanoworld at 2 p.m. in the Visitor Center Theater. Families will learn what a nanometer is, how properties change at the nanoscale, and how scientists investigate nanoscale phenomena. Come to learn about these topics and more. Stay after the talk to discover nanoscience through hands-on activities from 3-4 pm in the JSS class- room. Since 2008, Turtle Bay Exploration Park has brought this cutting edge science to the Northstate with Nano- Days, Biggest Event for the Smallest Science. activities every Spring. This year, Turtle Bay received a grant from the Nanoscale Informal Science Education Net- work (NISE.net) for additional programs tar- geted towards providing teachers with Nanoscience curriculum for their classrooms. "We are very excited when we received the news," said Christina Leadabrand, Grants Coordinator at Turtle Bay. "Turtle Bay was one of 20 nationwide museums out of 69 applicants selected to receive this grant." Professional Personal Convenient • Premium Digital Ask about our Open Fit Technology Discreet and Comfortable Hearing Aids for every budget • FREE hearing evaluations Community Center 1500 So. 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