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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mywife and I met when we were 20. We've been married for 15 years. We have two wonderful young children. Our issues started four years ago when my wife accused me of cheating with a co- worker. She admits she knows there was nothing going on, but she thinks I was emo- tionally in love with my co- worker. My wife and I fought about this for more than a year; she was physically abusive to me and threatened to kill herself — but the drama ended when I got a differ- ent job. I stopped caring as much about her and didn't show my apprecia- tion and love, but we still had a functional marriage, traveled a lot and had many happy moments. A couple of months back she discovered that her father is cheating on her mother. Also, two of her close relatives died of cancer, and she recently started working. Now she is determined to divorce me, and I'm devastated. I'm trying to prove to her how much I love her. Is there any chance I can win her back? —ForlornHusband DEAR FORLORN » Your description of your wife makes her sound unstable and abusive. Falsely accusing you, physically abusing you, threatening suicide and now leaving you: You can't just bounce back from these things. Nor should you. Marriage counseling for the two of you and therapy for her might ha ve h e l pe d wh en s he was acting out, accus- ing you of adultery and making your life miser- able until she got what she wanted and you left your job. Instead, it seems that rather than working things out, you simply tried to move on. But moving on doesn't work, unless you've resolved your challenges. At this point, you should accept that a separation might be best for everyone. Living in the midst of this much drama and dis- cord is not good for your children. Therapy would help you to put some of this in perspective. I hope you will gain the insight to see that trying to win back the love of someone who has been so abusive to you is not a healthy choice. DEAR AMY » I like the advice you gave to "Gay but not Happy." In addition to the resource you mentioned, I'd like to point your young reader to a couple of additional resources. One is the CDC's LGBT Youth Resources page. The other is one that my LGBTQ friends highly recommend: the GLBT National Help Center, which offers a range of tools. Thank you for tackling this issue so openly. — An Ally DEAR ALLY » Thank you for the recommendations. Abused husband wants to try to win his unstable wife back You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Aquarius(Jan.20-Feb. 19) — Don't make waves, start fights or disrupt a situation that can have an impact on your future. Look for alternatives instead of walking away. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Not everyone will like your plans. Your presentations must be persuasive if you want to gain the approval you need to forge ahead. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Be ready to leap into ac- tion if something unexpected develops. It's your ability to act quickly that will guide you to success. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Talk with people who see things your way. Your ability to relay a workable solution will put you in a key position. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Deal with any controversy you face or problems that are af- fecting your home and relation- ships. If you fail to take action, someone else will put you in a precarious position. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Speak up and be willing to stand behind your ideas. Having a well-thought-out plan and the wherewithal to make it a reality will boost your confidence and your popularity. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Strive for personal perfection. You can make improvements that will be admired by oth- ers and that can contribute to a better lifestyle. Make every move count, and avoid sense- less disagreements. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Look at the possibilities, and think about one of your bigger ideas until you have flushed out all the flaws. Be creative, but don't lose sight of reality. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You need time to reflect and work quietly behind the scenes until you are fully ready to take on the task of getting others to support your plans. 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