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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband of 26 years confessed to me recently that for the last four years he had been having a relation- ship wi th his fi rst love. They never met physi- cally because she lives in another state, but they texted and spoke on the phone. At times they've had phone sex. He worked out of town at the time and had unlimit- ed free time to devote to their relationship. A close friend of his recently died, and that's when he confessed — say- ing that his friend's death made him realize that he needed to make our mar- riage stronger. He ended it with her. He showed me texts from her regarding their breakup. He told me that they only ever communi- cated via phone — never email — and has allowed me access to his phone. However, while looking at his phone, I came across emails from her in the trash folder. I asked him about it and he got upset when I asked to see them. He deleted some emails, and then stayed in the room with me while I looked at the rest. He has given me the password to his computer and phone, but he won't share his email with me. Yesterday I noticed that he added another email account to his phone. I have been reading about saving your mar- riage after betrayal, and some sources say that the betrayed spouse needs to secretly monitor the unfaithful spouse's email, phone, messages, etc. ... I feel very conflicted about this. He says he wants to repair our mar- riage, and I want that too, but I still feel very betrayed and angry. What do you think about snooping in these circumstances? —Anguishedand Wretched DEAR ANGUISHED » I fail to see how reviewing evi- dence of this affair would promote healing — es- pecially if your goal is to stay together. Everything should be deleted and all contact between the two should cease. He should prove this to you beyond a doubt by offering you passwords to all accounts. You should not do anything secretly. Secrecy is the problem. Transpar- ency is the solution. If you feel anxious and feel the need to monitor, he'll have to tolerate it. If he is secretive and you are se- cretive, this just increases the gulf between you. You should see a cou- ples counselor as you try to repair your relation- ship. Marriages can repair — and possibly improve — after infidelity. You've been to the brink — now it's time to come back. DEAR AMY » You asked for examples of "bad" thank-yous. The most flabbergasting thanks I ever received was from a newlywed couple. It was a photo card showing the couple, with the pre- printed words: "Thanks, we loved your gift." No mention of the gift itself, which was a hand- made piece I had spent many hours on. Not even a signature! — E in Massachusetts DEAR E » Nice. 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