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I know in our society appearance matters, so I don't want her missing out on any opportunities like jobs because of her obesity. Also, I can see in the faces of my mother/ siblings and nieces and nephews the judgment — and I feel embarrassed. How can I help her real- ize her health is so impor- tant and encourage her to lose weight to become a healthier and stronger woman? Should I consider counseling for her or is there a book that would be helpful for me? —ConcernedParent DEAR CONCERNED » Your sense of shame is not helping. Nor is your "help" helping. If she is beautiful and smart, I suggest you lead with that when you talk — not your own disappointment at how overweight she is. I can imagine what it is like for her to face your judgmental family — what a great excuse to "eat her feelings!" Your concern about her health is a red herring to cover y o ur e mb ar ra ss m en t. You should not suggest counseling for her to deal with her weight, but you should offer counseling to her to deal with all sorts of issues that crop up with older adolescents, in- cluding how to deal with one's parents. A book I'm currently reading on this very topic is "Body of Truth: How Science, History and Culture Drive Our Obsession with Weight" by Harriet Brown (2015, De Capo Lifelong Books). DEAR AMY » I disagree with your answer to "D," the new bride who broke off a friendship because her maid of honor got drunk and ruined her wedding. If she has a drinking problem, this is not the time to end the friendship but to stand by and help her get some help in her time of need. Or do you just believe in "fair-weather friends"? Shame on you. — Dismayed DEAR DISMAYED » I believe that when a maid of honor ruins a wedding through her drunken antics, it's pretty much a friendship deal-breaker. The bride does not have a duty to continue the friendship — only to be honest about how the behavior affected her. Daughter is overweight. What should mother do to help her? You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Capricorn(Dec.22-Jan. 19) — Be prepared to accept change, and work with what- ever situation you face. It's your adaptability that will help you come out on top and make everyone stop and notice. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — A curious, innovative ap- proach to what you do and say will attract attention. Decorate your personal stage to accentu- ate your talent. 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