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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iama 62-year-old woman, who along with my husband went to a party at a friends' house. During the party, the husband groped me (he squeezed my breast). I told my husband about it afterward. He confronted the man immediately and the man denied do- ing it but said he was sorry if he did. Now my husband insists that we sever our friendship. We both like the wife. My husband wants to tell the wife why we are severing our friendship, but I say to let it go and don't tell her about it because it will only make her feel bad. This man had a stroke within the last 18 months but had been offensive to at least two of my girl- friends prior to this. —PleaseHelp DEAR PLEASE » "I didn't do it but I'm sorry if I did" is a terrible apol- ogy. You say this man has "been offensive" to other women before his stroke, so I assume that his stroke is not a factor in his behavior. You should be the primary person to decide how much contact you are willing to tolerate, al- though surely you can un- derstand your husband's protective reaction. You feel strongly about protecting the wife from the reality of her hus- band's behavior, but don't you think she has the right to know why your friendship has hit such a skid? Do you all realize that groping is a crime? If you feel able, you should confront the hus- band. Somebody has to call him on his behavior. Silence buys him more opportunities to grope women. DEAR AMY » My husband is lazy. I have to nag at him constantly or threat- en to leave him in order to get him to do simple things that every grown man should do without being told. He plays on his video games on his days off because he works 63 hours a week. I also work a full-time job (42.5 hours), look after the kids and pets, and do all other chores. He has been helping a little recently, but on his days off he does not even attempt to clean anything until I get home. He doesn't clean at all unless I clean at the same time. Am I being unreasonable to ask him to clean? This causes huge fights. — Exhausted DEAR EXHAUSTED » It's a stretch to call someone who works 63 hours a week "lazy," but your point is that your hus- band has enough en- ergy for his job and video games, but not enough energy to be a partner. Nagging doesn't work. Threatening to leave is the nuclear option. The impact on you is very real. Feeling like an exhausted nag isn't good for you. You might have suc- cess if you "gamify" the process. Since your hus- band is a gamer, ask him to work with you to create a game for the family, where you are each on a journey over the course of a week to complete tasks and earn rewards. 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