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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Aboutthree months ago, I got out of an abusive relation- ship. My ex attempted to kill me and made threats on my life afterward. The police did nothing, as they saw no injuries on my neck. I was in fear for my life, and remain fearful. He sent me a message about two weeks ago reminiscing about our times together. I replied, telling him he was lucky he wasn't arrested. I told him to leave me alone. He agreed. This behavior (minus the physical violence) is a pattern of his. He will break things off with me when I get too close to him. It is as if he wants to prove I am wrong to have feelings for him. The only feelings I have for him these days are feelings of regret. I notice he is still on online dating sites (which was how we met). Do I have an obligation to let these women know who he really is and what he did to me? And should I let his ex-wives (who he seems to have revolving-door relationships with) know what he did to me? He also drives drunk and at times his young child is in the car with him. What should I do? —Angry DEAR ANGRY » You should not be in touch with your abusive ex. At all. This "no-contact" rule includes responding to any messages he might send to you. Do not look him up on online dating sites and do not contact his ex-wives (they already know him). There are websites where people can post warnings about "bad," cheating or abu- sive ex-partners. I don't endorse this idea, but you can look into it and see what your comfort level is regarding making this choice. If you know someone personally who is dating or considering dating your ex, then you should definitely warn her that he physically abused you. Be aware that people receive and ignore these warnings all the time, however. If you personally witnessed your ex driving drunk with his child in the car, you should notify the girl's other parent. Otherwise, all of your effort should be devoted to dealing with your own anger and hurt — and moving forward into healthy relationships. DEAR READERS » As we plunge through yet another hectic holiday season — at the end of a very challenging year — I hope we will all take some extra time to hold one another close, to celebrate our relation- ships, and to reconcile with people with whom we've lost touch. I sin- cer ely hop e tha t eac h of us receives our hearts' desire. Merry Christmas and happy holidays to all. Should she warn future partners about abusive ex? You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Capricorn(Dec.22-Jan.19) — Anyone trying to convince you to be impulsive or to take a risk is best avoided. Listen to the opinions of others with interest, but do your own thing. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Children and family activities will highlight your day. A short trip will result in an interesting change of events. Instigate and welcome change. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Speak up, offer suggestions and do your best to put others at ease. Your kindness will make a difference. A little romance will bring you closer. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Stick to a budget. Say little and do a lot. You'll face controversy if you get together with people who think differently than you. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Travel plans, relaxed conver- sations with colleagues or dis- cussions about the future with your partner look promising. A romantic evening will ensure future happiness. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Emotions will surface, causing you to speak your mind. Your blatant honesty will bring about sudden and irreversible changes between you and the person you spar with. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Whether you host a get- together or travel to spend time with friends or relatives, your sparkling company will make a difference to those you encounter. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Your heart is in the right place, but not everyone will be happy with your choices. Offering to help someone in need will be gratifying, but could miff a close friend, loved one or family. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Get out and socialize. The conversations you have will lead to unusual banter. Keep your money in a safe place. Mixing business with pleasure will be detrimental. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Problems at home will lead to bad decisions or unexpected changes. Keep the peace until a better opportunity comes along to overcome any adversity you face. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Make home improvements or changes to the way you live or do things at home. An offer to help someone in need will be returned with an unexpected favor. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You may feel like you should take on everyone else's problems, but you are best off not meddling. You'll only be giv- en half the information you need to make a good suggestion. Horoscope By Eugenia Last THURSDAY, DEC. 24 THURSDAY, DECEMBER 24, 2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B