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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iamseeking advice on a very touchy subject between me and my boyfriend. I am 24 years old. When I was 21, I had a sexual relationship with another female. This rela- tionship did not last long, because I became con- flicted and eventually determined I was just not interested in that lifestyle. My boyfriend is everything to me! From our values to spirituality, he is my perfect match. We have always been honest with each other. He has a daughter from a previous relationship, so he makes the point that he can't hide his past. I opened up about my past sexual history with the female. Now he seems to be struggling with a lot of insecurity. I'm not sure what else I can do to comfort him, in that I am NOT gay, I was a young lady in a weird spot in life and experimented. But he is taking this very hard. He has never lashed out at me, or said anything negative about me wanting to hook up with other women. He has told me that he just has to work on his own insecurities. It's to the point that when we are in the same room and a TV show talks about lesbians, the atmo- sphere just gets awkward. I hate it. His insecurity is making ME insecure. Why can't he forget something that happened before we even knew each other? Was I wrong to tell him? How do I help him? What approach should I take to help him get over his insecurities? I need advice, badly. —AwkwardinMO DEAR AWKWARD » You can't put a timeline on someone else's discom- fort. From what you report, your boyfriend is being respectful and hon- est about his struggle. Some people are uni- laterally insecure about their beloved partners' sexual past. You, for instance, could react with tremendous insecurity about his previous rela- tionship that resulted in the creation of a human being (but you don't). Your sexual history is much lower-impact than his. However, many people are simply bewildered by another person's ability to enjoy a sexual rela- tionship back and forth across gender lines. It is confusing. But he must move through this. Your job is to accept your boyfriend's discom- fort without owning or appropriating his inse- curity. Let him ask you questions and be trans- parent in your responses. Lighten up to defuse some of the awkwardness. DEAR AMY » "Bride" was upset because her wheel- chair-bound father said he didn't want to go to her wedding. I liked your suggestion to help him by getting a family member or friend to accompany him. My mother (also in a wheelchair) had a friend help her get to my wed- ding. I was so grateful. — Happy Bride DEAR BRIDE » I will be forever grateful to my mother's friend, who did this for her when I got married. Boyfriend is insecure about girlfriend's bisexual past You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Sagittarius(Nov.23-Dec. 21) — Sincerely flattering the people you admire will make everyone feel closer and more in tune. There is nothing wrong with sending positive messages. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You are in a good position, but ignoring what the compe- tition is doing will result in a missed opportunity. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — It's time to tighten the purse strings and avoid unnecessary purchases. Frivolous spending on entertainment will lessen your financial flexibility. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — A cultural, musical or sporting event will provide a welcome break to a long session of stressful maneuvering. An opportunity will develop. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Stand out by making your forward-thinking, agreeable and adaptable traits easily seen. If you do this, recognition and rewards will follow. A chance to travel for business or pleasure will pay off. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Get approval from everyone involved before you make a financial decision or commit- ment. Don't assume you can speak for others. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Your actions are affecting someone behind the scenes. Your easygoing charm has made you a subject of favorable discussions. Be wary of anyone who is persistently asking for loans or donations. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Profits through careful invest- ments or real estate holdings are on the horizon. A beneficial partnership will develop with an acquaintance. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Be open and share your concerns about your future stability with your family or partner. A viable solution to your worries will come about as a result of your combined efforts. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Holding a grudge is a waste of time and will cause more stress for you than your opponent. Focus on projecting positive energy and an optimistic at- titude in order to move forward without hindrance. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You will be the shining star at any social or professional event. Others will be drawn to your innovative ideas and original perspective. A romantic liaison is in your future. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — There is money to be made. Your unique gifts can make for a lucrative sideline business by furnishing an ongoing service or must-have item. 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