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Lettheseasonbegin. This is the time of year for bright lights, lots of eating, cold weather, more eat- ing, holi- day celebra- tions, exces- sive eating, receiving and giv- ing gifts, thankfulness – and did I say "eating?" Yet, it's also the time of year for fam- ily gatherings and of- fice parties, which — in a perfect world — would be devoid of conflict and filled with joyous sup- portive conversations giving birth to happiness and bliss. Alas, we live in a world devoid of unicorns and fairy tales and for most of us, that's just not the case. Past transgressions, family dynamics, poor communication (coupled with a little too much brandy egg nog) can transform many get-to- gethers into assemblies of tight-fisted, teeth-grit- ting, hostile combatants merely sharing a com- mon environment. If that hits a little too close to home for you, my holiday gift for you is advice on how to pre- vent simmer from becom- ing boil at your next jam- boree. Rule #1: There is more than one reality. Just because you see something one way doesn't mean that's the only lens through which it can be viewed. Con- versely, simply because someone else has an al- ternate viewpoint doesn't mean that you have to agree. It's not your job to correct anyone else's ob- servations. Let them see what they want. Coupled with this concept is the maturity to accept that everyone will be wrong sometimes – even you. Rule #2: Each person's feelings and thoughts are legitimate. No one can take away how you feel, and the corollary to that is that what you feel is exactly what you are supposed to feel. You are entitled to your own opinions, emotions, and ideas. You don't get to tell any- one else how to feel and they're opinion of what you think or feel is ex- actly that: their opinion (to which they too are en- titled). Try to understand the motivation; rather than judge the result. Rule #3: Not all prob- lems have to be resolved. Group dynamics are knotty. What Aunt El- eanor did to Uncle Phil when they were in high school will not be re- solved over the course of a three-day get together surrounded by ten other people in a house de- signed to comfortably hold five. It's perfectly fine to realize the unhap- piness of the situation and it's even healthier to acknowledge it. What's optimum is learning to live with it until all par- ties are dedicated to fix- ing it – and if it hasn't occurred in the last 22 years, odds are it's not going to happen now. Rule #4: Blame no one – including yourself. Placing blame is a mis- guided technique to try and resolve a problem. Who did what to whom is not as important as who will do what with whom to repair the situ- ation. Instead of asking "Why did this happen?" A solution will be made more apparent by asking, "How do we fix it?" Learn that compassion goes much futher toward re- solving issues then does guilt. Keeping in mind Rule #3 above, of course. Rule #5: We each only get one life to run; so run yours as well as you can. The only life we con- trol is our own. If you're like many, you might have read this column and thought to yourself, "Well, that's all fine and good advice and I'll cer- tainly take it to heed. But what about when Ta- sha starts making com- ments about how poorly I'm doing on my diet, or that blowhard Jeff starts running his mouth off about politics?" Take a deep breath and go back and re-read Rule #1, Rule #2 and, Rule #3. If your emotions get the better control of you take the bait, then remember Rule #4 when all is over. Special bonus Rule: Above all remember to rely on gratitude and for- giveness as often as you can. The more you feel of each, the happier you'll be — now and all year long. Scott"Q"Marcusis a nationally known weight loss expert for baby boomers and the CRP — Chief Recovering Perfectionist — of www. ThisTimeIMeanIt.com. Check out his new series of free weight loss videos and other inspirational material at www. FourMonthsToGoal.com. SCOTTMARCUS Fiverulesforbetterfamilydynamics Thattoomuchwaterisbe- ingusedinirrigateddistricts wherethesupplyisabundant istheinferencefromareport just issued by Frank Adams in charge of the Co-opera- tiveIrrigationInvestigations madein1913and1914jointly by the engineering depart- ment of the state university andtheUnitedStatesExper- iment stations in California. In the Los Molinos dis- trict records were kept dur- ing the irrigation season on nine tracts of land in alfalfa in 1913 and 10 tracts in 1914. The records show the num- ber of irrigations, number of cutting, acre feet of wa- ter used and the crop yield. It is shown that in 1913 an averageof5.57acrefeetwere used to produce a yield of 5.81 tons of alfalfa per acre, whereas in 1914 an average of 4.74 acre feet produced 6.22 tons of hay to the acre on practicallythesameland. — Nov. 20, 1915 100 YEARS AGO... Ranchers use too much water Seasontestshowsthatirrigationismostsuccessfulwithcertainamount COURTESYPHOTO Pictured are the Corning Exchange Club students of the month for November. From le , are teacher Corine Madday, Courtney McCoy, Corning Union High School; teacher Teresa Lamb, Esperanza Romero, Centennial High School; Andy Ramirez, teacher Martin Jimenez, Olive View Elementary School and Marcos Sanchez, teacher Tim Linnet, Maywood School. Iron Skillet provided gi cards to all the students. CORNING EXCHANGE Club honors students of the month Thefollowinginformation is compiled from Red Bluff PoliceDepartment,RedBluff Fire, Tehama County Sher- iff's Department, Corning Police Department, Corning Fire, Cal Fire and California Highway Patrol logs. Arrest JoseGrajeda-Juarez: 29, of Red Bluff was arrested and booked into Tehama County Jail Wednesday on felony charge of child endangerment. Bail was set at $53,000. RobertaMichaelis: 45, of San Tan Valley, Arizona was arrested and booked Wednes- day on charges of burglary, receiving known stolen prop- erty of $400value or more and forgery. Bail was set at $64,000. AldonFacey: 70, of Cotton- wood was arrested Tuesday and booked Wednesday on the felony charge of continu- ous sexual abuse of a child. Bail was set at $200,000. Burglary FranzelRoad: A home was burglarized sometime in the last two days. A bed, bike and other items are reported to be missing from the residence. The DonitaDrive: It was reported early Wednesday morning that an unknown subject broke out the windows of a truck and stole a wallet. RedBluffMeadowsApart- mentsonKimballRoad: A vehicle was reported stolen Wednesday in this location. The vehicle was reported to have been possibly locked and one set of keys is unac- counted for. OverlandPostonWashing- tonStreet: It was reported Wednesday that a vehicle was broken into sometime Satur- day night or Sunday morning in the downtown area. The stereo was stolen and the suspect broke the windows out. The suspect may have tried to steal the vehicle. POLICE LOGS Scott Marcus HugeDiscountsonDirtBikes ParkingLotTentSale 70% off Items up to •Helmets•Gloves•RidingGear•Clothing 22805 Antelope Blvd., Red Bluff 530-527-1466 ATVs are recommended only for use by those age 16 years and older. YAMAHA recommends an approved training course. See your dealer or call 1-800-887-2887. ATVs can be hazardous to operate. Professional driver on closed course. Always protect the environment and wear your seat belt, helmet, eye protection and protective clothing. Read the ownerís manual and product warning labels before operation. Model shown with optional accessories. Vehicle specifications subject to change. 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