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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»I'mata crossroads. I've been married for 15 years, and have two children, ages 11 and 9. I don't love my husband anymore and don't see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I care about him and appreci- ate him, but there's no love left. He's an hon- est person, and a very hard worker who's great around the house. However, he's also a rigid, insecure, angry man. I've been unhappy for years (yes, years), but decided to stick it out for the sake of the kids. But I'm just tired of dealing with him. We don't fight very often because I find myself just letting everything go for the sake of having a peaceful house. If we didn't have children, I'd have no problem dissolving the marriage. I'm not being truthful with him about my feelings, which really bothers me. My dilemma is that I'm concerned with uprooting my children's lives. How does one de- cide whether it's worth it to stay for the children's sake? —ShouldIStayor Should I Go? DEAR STAY OR GO » Just spitballing here — but I'm wondering if your husband might be inse- cure and angry because he is married to someone who likes but does not love him, and who has been unhappy for years. I'm not blaming you for his behavior, but you don't seem to be taking much responsibility for your own happiness. You passively avoid fighting in order to have a peaceful home, but there are times to be a little less Neville Chamberlain and a little more Winston Churchill. I'm not suggesting you fight your husband "on the beaches," but you two might be able to restore some connection and intimacy if you learned how to communicate honestly — and fight for your marriage. It would be a shame if you walked away from your marriage without at least attempt- ing to change it for the better. Raising children in an unhappy home is obvious- ly not good for them, but don't kid yourself — at their ages most children aren't overly concerned about your happiness in your marriage and would rather have their parents together than endure the dislocation and uncer- tainty of splitting up. A marriage counselor may be able to coach both of you into mak- ing changes that might benefit your marriage, or help you to separate peacefully, if that's what yo u ch oo s e to do . DEAR AMY » "Affair Bound" asked if he could get his wife's "permission" to have an affair. You should have taken the op- portunity to educate him about polyamory. This is a lifestyle which can work for many people. — Poly DEAR POLY » I do not advocate for polyamory and thus don't feel com- pelled to educate people about it. When is it OK to leave your unhappy, loveless marriage? 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