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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mywife and I came to this coun- try from halfway around the world nearly 50 years ago. We are both profes- s io na l s — ha r d - wo r k in g people with Type A personalities. With the utmost TLC we raised three chil- dren who are now in their early 40s, highly successful, and with their own lovely fami- lies. They live far away from us. We are highly regard- ed, loved and respected — mainly because we have accumulated considerable knowledge and experi- ence over the years and treat everyone with love and respect. However, to our adult children, we don't seem to do or say any- thing quite right, from tipping in a restaurant to purchasing a piece of property to driving a vehicle! How should we respond to this fairly constant criticism from our children? —UpsetParents DEAR PARENTS » You describe yourselves as "Type A" personalities. I assume your children are too. Some of this need to offer "helpful" feedback might be more te mp er a me nt a l t h an judgmental. Is any of this criticism helpful to you? If so, then accept it. Remember, too, that when you were the ages of your children you were (presumably) thousands of miles away from your own parents, and thus not able to offer them lots of con- descending feedback. (Or perhaps your home culture forbids this sort of intergenerational interchange.) This change in the parent/child dynamic is quite common and I have to confess doing this to my own mother, trying to weigh in on choices that had nothing to do with me. My mother batted me down, quite gently — but perhaps you need to be a little more assertive with your offspring. Each time this starts, remind them: "We don't criticize your choices and don't appreciate you criticizing ours. We've been successfully tipping (driv- ing, purchasing things, etc.) for a very long time. This critique has become habitual on your part and we don't like it. So please — for the love of God — stop." One of my mother's favorite responses was to say, with a sigh: "I hope I live long enough to watch you handle this with your own children." Happily, she did. DEAR AMY » The letter from "Elephant on the Couch" was frustrated by a hard-working son- in-law who sacked out on the couch in the midst of festivities after Thanksgiving dinner. You were sympathetic toward the letter writer. I had to laugh — nap- ping IS how we celebrate Thanksgiving in our family. She should cut him some slack. — Prone to Naps DEAR PRONE » Many read- ers agreed with you. Hard-working parents don't like their nitpicking kids You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov. 22) — Pace yourself. Express your ideas and present what you have to offer. Improve your personal life by adding a little romance to the mix. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Raise your self-esteem by learning all there is to know about something that interests you. A career change will help avert negativity and criticism. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Call the shots instead of let- ting someone else take charge. You'll gain respect and recogni- tion if you offer suggestions and hands-on help. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Stick to what you know. You may relish change, but first you have to make a solid platform to build on. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — You'll attract a lot of attention no matter what you do. Participate in events if you want something good to develop. A chance to work with someone you admire looks promising. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Let go of old, worn-out ideas, items or situations that stand in your way. Start anew and pick the direction that will bring you the greatest satisfaction. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Do what you can to help an older friend or relative. Someone you want to get to know better will notice your kindness. Love is on the rise and romance is encouraged. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Focus on one thing at a time. Taking on too much will not ac- complish what you hope. Focus on detail, precision and getting things done. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Discuss anything that is bother- ing you openly in order to resolve matters quickly. A chance to do something unusual should be taken advantage of. A change of scenery will do you good. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Check out what's trendy and see if you can turn what you have to offer into a moneymak- ing venture. Short trips and trade shows will encourage you to do things differently. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Stop dreaming and start producing, or someone else will steal your ideas and turn them into reality. Don't miss an op- portunity just because you are afraid to make a move. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Recognize your skills and at- tributes, and look for a suitable position that will fully engage them. A different approach will result in greater interest and satisfaction. Horoscope By Eugenia Last WEDNESDAY, NOV. 11 WEDNESDAY,NOVEMBER11,2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B