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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Twoweeks ago I called my father to let him know that my fiance and I were bring- ing our wedding date for war d. M y d a d a nd I spoke briefly. Five minutes later he called back to say he would not be attending. When I asked why, he said he didn't like weddings. I told him this wasn't a good excuse, and then he said he didn't want to be a hassle due to his wheelchair. My fiance's father is similarly disabled, and we're making arrange- ments. I told my father this and he said he may come to the reception. My father then mentioned our distant relationship as a reason I wouldn't care if he was there. Due to an unhappy home life with him be- cause of anger, I did move in with my mother when I was 13. But we're past that and have an OK, but not close, relationship — partly due to the fact that I live two hours away. My father is isolated and I feel he's saying no because he doesn't feel comfortable leaving home. How do I approach him? I don't mind if he doesn't want to stay. For me the most important part is the ceremony. —Bride DEAR BRIDE » If possible you should visit your fa- ther in order to confront his fears. His waffling makes it sound as if he is nervous — not only about his disability, but also about his role. My instinct is that he might be avoiding the cer- emony because he is not able to "walk" you down the aisle — or he doesn't know if you want him to. One way to address this would be to have your beloved (or a friend) push his wheelchair down the aisle with you walking alongside; or, for you and your beloved to walk down the aisle together, acknowledging your fam- ily members when you arrive at the end. DEAR AMY » My son may have fathered the child of my brother-in-law's daughter. My son has no biological link to the mother, but this changes the dynamics of our family. Once DNA results are received and it does turn out to be his, how do I handle communicat- ing to certain members of the family who should know but can't keep their mouths shut? My gut tells me this will be my grand- child. She is a beautiful 6-month-old and I love the mother. This was a result of a one-time thing and both are on their own paths. My son is marrying his fiance, she is aware and accepting; it hap- pened before they met. I'm sick to my stomach over this and don't know how to deal with difficult family members. — Gram DEAR GRAM » The way to avoid judgmental fam- ily members is to "own" whatever the truth hap- pens to be with grace. Give them this headline: "This baby is the result of a brief and awkward rela- tionship. And everybody is calmly moving forward and they all love this child. Imagine that?!" Daughter's nuptials bring on lots of jitters for her father You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Trying to convince someone who has different beliefs to see things your way will be futile. Don't waste time when taking care of responsibilities. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — If someone from your past wants to reconnect, speak from the heart. You are best to cut your losses rather than make the same mistake twice. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — If you agree to take on someone else's responsibilities, make sure you are fully aware of what's expected of you. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Share your feelings. Hon- esty will help keep a trouble- some relationship issue to a minimum. A change will do you good. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Deal with distressing news regarding a senior citizen you know with compassion. Do all you can to keep family ties from unraveling. Compromise will be crucial to maintain peace. Aries (March 21-April 19) — You will gain recognition if you take a leap of faith. Sum- mon up your courage and put all your cards on the table. A professional opportunity is imminent. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Money matters will be unsettling. Steer clear of anyone looking for a handout or dona- tion. Rely on your instincts, and when in doubt, don't hesitate to walk away. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Make a positive transition. A residential move or change in vocation will work out to your advantage, provided you do your homework first to avoid any unwanted surprises. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You can improve your current position and maintain your in- tegrity by fulfilling your respon- sibilities without squabbling. Do the best job you possibly can and you will be recognized and rewarded. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Do something you haven't done in years. Play an old-fashioned board game or cards and have some fun with friends or family. The time spent will help relieve stress and strengthen bonds. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Love is on the rise, but you are best to use affection, not words, to seal the deal. You will find the answers to any ques- tions you have if you listen and observe. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Keep the peace. Even if you are in total disagreement with what is being said, give whoever you are debating a fair chance to air his or her views. 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