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2A Daily News – Friday, March 23, 2012 Community people&events Birth — Wooden Enough excuses "Successful people find a way; failures find excuses." I don't remember who told me that, and as much as I find the term "failures" to be a sloppy choice of words, it's a valid concept. Day by day, hour-by-hour, we face options. Often, one path leads us forward while another locks us in place. Why then do we opt to stay where we are? The human psyche is past com- Courtesy photo Kristofer and Brandie Wooden, a daughter, Taylor Lynn Wooden, 6 pounds, 8 ounces and 20 inches long, born at 5:04 p.m. on Saturday, March 3, 2012, at St. Elizabeth Community Hospital in Red Bluff. Welcoming baby are big sister Lillie Wooden, 2; grandparents Bambi and James Wooden and Janie and Wayne Hayes, all of Red Bluff; Great-grandparents JoAnn Maxwell of Red Bluff and Jane Curtis of San Pablo. SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. Setting it straight The Website listed in the Tuesday, March 20, front page story Highlight Show is under construc- tion. For more information on the grant program from which SERRF was given a $1,200 grant for mobile bowling sets, visit www.bowlersed.com or send an e-mail to Corey Robinson at crobinson@ibcyouth.com. –––––––– It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. plex and the reasons are beyond count. Sometimes, we didn't realize alternatives existed until we look back. Possibly, the choices did not seem that diverse; in effect it was six of one, half a dozen of the other; any port in a storm. Maybe it was a snap decision without the necessary time to truly evaluate the results. Yet, more times than not, no sugar- coating the answer: we had an excuse. At any moment, any one of us can dig deep into our sack of justi- fication pulling forth numerous vin- dications why we make our choices. "Not enough time; people will think less of me; it's never worked before, why will this be different?" As the stakes amplify, immovability expands, the opposite of what needs to happen. For example, your marriage hits rough seas. Friends suggest coun- seling. Excuses spurt forth like rapids over rocks: "It's no one else's business," you quickly reply. "We can do it our own; besides, we can't afford it." Having shut off commu- nication, you return to small talk, and later to a sadness that further solidifies around your heart. Noth- ing has changed, your rationale stood strong. You "won." Every reason was valid, yet that's falsely framing the subject. The core ques- tion is, "You might have been accurate – but are you happy?" It can be framed as a matter of principles; call it what you wish, it's still an excuse to play the game of "ain't it awful?" Your spouse and you disagree about a deci- sion? Instead of steaming over how wronged you've been, explain directly how important it is to you that he see it your way. It takes courage, and no, there's no guarantee he'll listen; but if the current strategy isn't working, it might be time to take a closer look at something new. Unsure how to handle a difficult port, you "tough it out," choosing to let your health — and possibly your relationships — deteriorate under false pretenses. We make excuses because we fear the alter- native, or being labeled "failure," "weak," or "wrong." To avoid judg- ment, we devise all manner of rationale that allows us to cling tight to the status quo. We yet again fought off the beast of change, but for how long — and at what cost? Scott Q. Marcus Excuses are habits; well worn relationships with our thoughts, which served us well. And, as with some relationships, a time might come when the pain they cause is no longer worth the history they carry. With grace — and a bit of sadness — we can say farewell and look forward to what can be. co-worker? We usually handle these delicate daily dramas by talking behind others' backs, hoping some- how that the criticism will gently "leak." She'll see the error of her ways and adjust — no harm, no foul. It's a bit more frightening to be direct, but, as they say, when all else fails, try honesty. You're embarrassed because you're dealing with life's stressors by eating or drinking so you try to hide it. Ironic, isn't it that those closest to you probably already noticed? Yet instead of admitting your vulnerablility and seeking sup- Scott "Q" Marcus is the CRP (Chief Recovering Perfectionist) of www.ThisTimeIMeanIt.com, a website to support folks frustrated with making promises and ready to make a change in a supportive environment. Sign up for his free newsletter at the site or at facebook.com/thistimeimeanit. Contact him for coaching, consulting, workshops, and speaking at 707.442.6243 or scottq@scottqmarcus.com. His first six years of these columns are now available on Amazon at http://amzn.to/StrivingBooks. Softball tourney COMMUNITY CLIPS County Counsel. The deadline for entering the 2012 Kay Webb Memorial Softball Tournament is set for March 28. The tournament will be Men's and Women's on March 31 and Coed on April 1 at Frey and Tosh Fields. There is a four-team minimum per division and the cost is $150 per team, due prior to the first game. Trophies and t-shirts will be given out for first place. Proceeds go to opening the McGlynn Swimming Pool for the 2012 summer season. For more information or to register call Debbie Morisch at 366-6425. Grants available The North Valley Community Foundation is accept- ing RFPs through March 31 for its grant program for organizations serving seniors. 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Celebration Here Will Be Huge Affair The celebration bug is in the air, and from all indications the highway and courthouse celebra- tion will be a big one. G. K. King, W. T. Watts, Walter Stoll and other members of the committee already are planning big things. Everything from pageants of progress, circuses, carnival, grand mardi gras and whatnot is being discussed. — March 23, 1922 Daily and affordable classes: AHA/HCP or Pro-CPR Daycare EMS Approved Pediatric CPR/First Aid Industrial OSHA Approved CPR/First Aid Public Adult CPR & First Aid Wilderness First Aid Babysitting Safety Youth Water Safety 530-527-4997 80 Gurnsey Ave. - Red Bluff, CA 96080 (Behind Guy Rents) margescpr@juno.com All grants made from the Emil and Leonora Stief- vater Senior Endowment are dedicated to meeting the emotional, physical and/or spiritual needs of seniors. All nonprofit organizations located in Butte, Colusa, Glenn or Tehama counties that serve seniors are eligi- ble to apply for the 2012 Stiefvater Senior Grant Pro- gram. Applications for the 2012 Stiefvater Senior Endow- ment Grant Program will be accepted until March 31. For more information call 891-1150, ext. 28 or visit www.nvcf.org. Drug, alcohol board meeting Drug and Alcohol Advisory Board is holding a spe- cial meeting and training regarding the Ralph M. Brown Act open meeting law provided by the Office of Albertson Training Center Rebecca Glenn new Esthetician working Introducing at Abbey's Hair Works 731 Main St. Ste. 1A. Services include: Facials, Waxing, Eyelash Extensions, Spray Tanning first appointment with this ad. Call (530)527-3974 and Permanent Makeup. 20% off The meeting will be 1-3 p.m. on Thursday, March 29, in the board chambers at the Tehama County Administrative Building, 727 Oak St., in Red Bluff. For more information call 527-7893. Caverns receive award The National Park Service has notified Lake Shasta Caverns they have been awarded the Natural National Landmark (NNL) designation. This has been a 40-year process with the original application sent in 1974. This award is issued within the criteria of the condi- tion and quality of the caves, rarity and value to science and education. "We have waited so long to receive this designation and we are ecstatic," said Matt Doyle, caverns geveral manager. "We expect an increase in guest attendance from out of the area due to this recognition." Lake Shasta Caverns are a network of caves located near the McCloud Arm of Shasta Lake and date back at least 200 million years, formed by flowing water. Made entirely of limestone, these caves feature every type of possible formation, including stalactites, stalagmites, soda straws, columns and flowstone. With a total of 35 Natural National Landmark sites in California, Lake Shasta Caverns now becomes num- ber 36. The closest cave with this designation Is Black Chasm Cave and is located 219 miles away. Lake Shasta Caverns is open to the public with daily tours all year long. The caverns are located at 20359 Shasta Caverns Road, just off Interstate 5, north of Shasta Lake. For more information visit the website at www.lake- shastacaverns.com or call 1-800-795-CAVE (2283) or 238-2341. Slow food events Slow Food events in March and April are as follows: • Farwood Bar & Grill-12 Tastes of 2012, 2:30-4:30 p.m., March 24 Irish Whiskey and local food tasting. Orland Farmstead Creamery — Divide Ranch Beef — Bianchi Orchards Wal- nuts. Call 865-9900 to reserve some seats or just show up. Information or directions visit: http://www.farwood- barandgrill.com/hours-directions.html • Buy Fresh, Buy Local Fundraiser, April 14, Ohm Ranch, Red Bluff. Barn Dance, Music, Dance Lessons, Silent Auction and yummy food. Information visit http://www.ohmranch.com/ or http://www.landconservation.org/ • Joe Salatin speaking in Chico, Monday, April 16, $12 per ticket paid online. Doors Open at 5:15 p.m. More infor- mation visit: http://www.meetup.com/Chico-ButteValley- WAPFChapter/. • Local Food and Health Gathering, 6:30-8:30 p.m. Tuesday, April 17, Red Bluff Art Gallery, 601 Walnut Street Red Bluff. Network, purchase local products, yummy treats. If you have products you'd like to bring, call Ana at 529-1332. Come enjoy Saturday evening with us A P Presents assover Seder April 7, 2012 at 5:30pm 1920 Park St., Red Bluff Celebrate Passover as Jesus did. Donation $ Jewish style food and worship Limited seating of 50 850 For tickets and information contact Barbara at 527-7695 Michael Martin April 14th Murphey In concert Crystal Art & Apparel, Crossroads Feed The Loft - Red Bluff, Shasta Farm - Cottonwood, Rabobank - Corning, Richfield Feed Tickets $50 - $35 - $25 available at State Theatre Info 527-3092 • 7pm