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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Oneofmy close women friends has been married for many years to a sweet, "passive" man who is somewhat bumblin g. His int ention s are always good, but he lacks common sense. When my friend is dis- pleased with any mistakes he makes, she repri- mands him in a sharp, exasperated way, ensur- ing that not only will he hear her dis- pleasure, but those present will, too. This not only makes me uncomfortable, but I feel compassion for her husband, who is constant- ly berated by her. I want to talk to her about what I see. Would this be appropriate? —AnUncomfortable Friend DEAR FRIEND » If your female friend were being berated and embarrassed by her husband, wouldn't someone step in to try to intervene? I think when you're contemplating confront- ing someone over unac- ceptable behavior, you shouldn't worry too much about being appropriate. Abusive people count on bystanders being too in- timidated or well behaved to confront the problem. So you tell your friend, "I want you to know that I am very disturbed by the way I've seen you berate 'John.' If someone was treating you this way, I'd have to say something — but you're the one doing it." Someone should also reach out to the husband to try to discern how this affects him and offer support. DEAR AMY » I'm a 15-year- old girl in high school. I have boy problems. I always get these su- per nice guys to like me. But once I find out they like me, I'm horrified. I'm afraid of relation- ships. There are so many unknowns. I'm afraid of awkward silences and I think high- schoolers in general have a problem of trying to always seem 100 percent perfect in front of their crushes. It's almost like the stress of being in a relationship is enough to NOT be in one. I don't understand why I can't just be in a normal relat ions hip witho ut f eel - ing so worried. I can't figure out what my problem is. Can you help? — Sort of Scared Sophomore DEAR SCARED » Your "problem" isn't really a problem. What you are going through is called: Being 15. Your awareness of how awkward young relation- ships can be tells me that you are actually quite ma- ture. I felt the exact same way when I was your age. The answer is to wait to date until you feel ready. Let yourself off the hook. Be a great friend, student and citizen. These "great guys" who like you will still be great and will still like you, whether or not you pair off together. When you're ready, many of your concerns will fall away. Try not t o fe el p r e s su r e d a n d r e - member — the big secret to relationships that no one tells you about is that there is no "perfect" way to have them. 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