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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myonlysister and I have never been close, possibly due to a six-year age difference and by having grown up in an extremely alcohol- fueled and abusive home. In adulthood, we went our separate ways and rarely had contact. Recently she moved to the same city in which I live so I reached out to her to try to re- kindle our relationship. During our visit, she confided to me about a big decision she and her husband are facing. I cautioned her about rushing into the decision. I learned later, by reading about this conversation on her blog, that she felt I had tried to "shame her" and that I had stuck my nose into her business. I was quite surprised and hurt by her reaction. I asked her to refrain from specifically referring to me in her blog posts. I am an extremely private person and find it deeply offensive and disrespect- ful that she would write something so accusatory about me and publish it for the world to see. She didn't respect my request. I have given up, as she clearly has no interest in respecting my wishes. I stopped all contact with her (includ- ing unfriending her on Facebook). I find it frustrating that she has continued to mention me in a few posts since, by mak- ing statements such as "certain family members refuse to let things go." She has referred to me as a bully. Was I wrong to have asked that she not make specific reference to me in her blogs? How could I have handled things dif- ferently and what advice do y o u ha ve f or m e go i n g forward? —Stonewalledinthe Rockies DEAR STONEWALLED » We live in an era of social sharing, where people sometimes use social media to wound other s — either through outright malice or through thinly veiled references. You asked your sister to stop writing about you, but she thinks that she is writing about her own life. And now, even asking her to stop brings on another mention. Stop reading and reacting. Moving forward, I hope that you each get professional help to cope with the ongoing rela- tional fallout of grow- ing up in a household where boundaries weren't respected. I interpret her behavior (and perhaps your reaction) as a symptom of growing up in an alcohol-fueled and abusive home. DEAR AMY » "Concerned In-Laws" were worried that their son-in-law was too slovenly for a job promotion. He should be told: "Dress for the job you want, not for the job you have." They should find a way to get this message across to their son-in-law. It will make all the difference. — Been There DEAR BEEN THERE » Solid, classic advice. Thank you. Sisters' relationship is bogged down by dramatic blog posts You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Libra(Sept.23-Oct.23)— Keep moving forward and don't be dissuaded by negative com- ments. Your accomplishments will prove how capable you are. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — If you listen and observe, you will get a better feel for what lies ahead. Postpone crucial decisions until you are certain of the outcome. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You should host an event or get-together with your peers. Use your social skills and good humor to network your way to the top. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Steer clear of anyone looking for an argument. Heightened emotions will result in hurt feel- ings and regret. Think before you speak. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Participate in local events that will put you in touch with your neighbors and cultural community. You will be ap- plauded for your good nature and willingness to help others. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Taking care of your needs is not being selfish. With all you do for others, it's likely your health will suffer if you don't take time for some serious relaxation. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Make a point to take on physical challenges that will help ease your stress. Tension will build at home if you don't have an outlet for it. Avoid saying something you'll regret. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — You will come across an enticing deal. Consider the pros and cons before taking ac- tion. Before you take on more responsibility, complete the jobs you committed to finish. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Mix and mingle. Socialize and gather information. You will be the star of any group, gathering or event you attend. An unlikely source will offer an interesting suggestion. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — People at home will be difficult to deal with. Don't waste time and energy arguing. Pursue an enjoyable hobby or anything else that will get you out of the house. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — You need an emotional boost. Make plans to spend time with people who make you smile. A humorous approach to life will lead to greater popularity as well as unexpected opportunity. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — An opportunity to move forward should be considered. Your present situation has run its course or lost its appeal. Look for new prospects that will make better use of your talents. Horoscope By Eugenia Last TUESDAY, OCT. 20 TUESDAY,OCTOBER20,2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B