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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»My30-year- old niece has lived with her boyfriend for three years. They became en- gaged last year and then called off the engagement but still live together. My niece recently revealed that she defines herself (and relationship) as polyam- orous — or open to additional sexual re- lationships outside the primary relationship. According to my niece, she recently met and "fell in love" with another woman and now the three of them are all in a relationship together. I explained to my niece that her choice to be poly- amorous is personal and should remain private, as should any other sexual proclivity. Now I am ac- cused of trivializing the love-of-her-life and sexu- alizing her most sacred personal relationships. My niece feels she must be "open and hon- est" about this situation. My bottom line is you get to bring one significant other (not two) to Christ- mas dinner. My niece does not understand this and is deeply hurt and feels rejected. The uncles and aunts and her parent (my brother) are up in arms about the whole thing and say they will not have their children around this depraved situation. Any thoughts? —WhatistheWorld Coming To DEAR WWCT » The world, apparently, is coming to this. You have the right to lay down whatever rules you want when you are entertaining in your home. Your niece is being "open and honest" and so you should be open and honest, as well as respectful. You should not tell this adult how to live. She does not need instruc- tions from you on what to keep private. Her life is her own business; where it intersects with your life is where you can make it your own business. It might help if you see things this way: You r n iece ha s for med a "family" with two other people. You can reject one or both of her fam- ily members, or you can choose to be inclusive, without really caring one way or the other how they work out their sex lives. Her sex life should not be a topic of discus- sion at the holiday table, any more than you and your husband would be inclined to discuss their sex lives at the table. Honestly, most children couldn't care less how adults partner up. DEAR AMY » Oh, that ques- tion from "Distraught Mom" made my blood boil! This mother was wondering whether to let her teenage daughter attend a keg party? In addition to your good advice I have a reminder to all parents: It is illegal for you to host or let your underage children drink. — Upset DEAR UPSET » State laws differ; in Illinois parents can let their own under- age child drink, but only their own child (with a parent present) and only in their home. They may not serve alcohol to any other underage people. Polyamorous trio wants to enjoy their holidays together You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Libra(Sept.23-Oct.23)— Your originality will inspire you to try new ways of expressing yourself. Love and romance are in the stars. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Consider your progress and celebrate your accomplish- ments. Don't take the atti- tude that nothing is ever good enough. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — If you are too outspoken, you will be blamed for meddling. Concentrate on your accom- plishments and responsibilities, not on what others do. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You will be offered a rewarding financial deal. A personal relationship will grow stronger if you plan a romantic celebration. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Hasty financial decisions will cost you. Stick to your budget and find a low-cost way to im- prove your living space. Consult a trusted friend if you are in need of relationship advice. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — You'll be accused of being unreasonable or overbearing. Voice your ideas, but let others do as they please. You will be respected for your equitability and lack of interference. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Take any opportunity to spend quality time with family or friends. A short trip or impromp- tu excursion to an interesting or fun-filled destination will give you a new perspective. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Someone will try to take ad- vantage of you. Follow your gut feelings if you are concerned about ulterior motives. Don't follow the crowd just to please those around you. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Take up a new hobby or become involved with a musical or artistic group in your commu- nity. You will meet an enjoyable someone who will influence your future. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Keep your personal papers and belongings in order. Being disorganized or untidy will cause unwanted delays and friction with the people you live with. Donate unused or unwanted items to charity. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Don't let professional matters eat away at your free time, causing a rift between you and someone you made plans with. Make amends to avoid a scene. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Don't slacken your pace if things are running smoothly. Constant attention to detail and a rigorous focus will ensure that you continue to make progress. Stick to your game plan. 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