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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihavebeen with my boyfriend for about eight years. The other night we went out to dinner with my parents. One of their friends came over to say hello. The conversa- tion came around to this elderly friend's age. She is 80 years old. My boy- friend asked her "if she still fools around." We were all so embar- rassed. He showed no respect to me, my parents or to their friend. He does not think he said anything wrong. He thinks it is funny. He often talks about our sex life in a social gathering, even though he can see this makes people un- comfortable. I feel this is private. How do I handle this if it happens again? —NotAmused DEAR NOT » In addition to being rude and disre- spectful, your boyfriend is also committing a crime against comedy. Maybe he is a full-time jerk, or maybe he is one of those people who gets nervous in social situations. Either way, he is responsible for his actions. But you are choosing to spend time with him. What's up with that? The next time he calls you out publicly by embarrassing you, you should tell him, "I've asked you many times not to do this," and you should leave. Don't demand apologies. Just keep your distance. If he is capable of change, this might inspire him to redefine his humor. DEAR AMY » My brother is driving me crazy. His fiancee of six years (and the mother of his son) dumped him. She kicked him out of the house. He moved into a low-grade apartment. He could afford better but is "waiting." He insists his fiancee is going to want him back and he wants to be avail- able. He won't date other people or go out with friends. He does attend church, volunteers and goes to the gym. I worry that he wants to express his love to her by waiting for her. I ask him why and he just says you can't pick who you love. "It's in God's hands" is his quote. He had been married and divorced be- fore so this is not his first breakup. This woman has moved another man into the home. How can he still love her? What if she takes him back and breaks his heart again? Any advice on stopping what he's doing? — Frustrated Brother in Atlanta DEAR FRUSTRATED » This might sound strange, but YOU are the one who needs to make changes. Your brother is an adult. He is making choices you don't like. But it is his right to mess up his life. Is he coming to you for help? Is he saying to you, "What's wrong with me? What should I do?" No, he's saying, "I'm doing what I'm doing and it's in God's hands." When someone deter- mined to make choices you don't like says this, you can respond, "Well, Good luck to you." Your job is to manage your own your feelings — not run his life for him. Boyfriend thinks he's a comic, girlfriend strongly disagrees You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Libra(Sept.23-Oct.23)— Follow your dreams. You have the right stuff to make it to the top and achieve your goals. Your experiences will provide valuable insights into your future. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Stay away from untried or risky ventures. Stick to your budget and say no to anyone looking for a loan or donation. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Stop procrastinating if you want to get ahead. Putting off the inevitable will keep you from meeting your deadlines. Pick a project. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Do whatever you can to make someone love you more. Don't leave anyone out when planning an event. Offer positive ideas and plans for the future. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Check out local entertain- ment. Hard work deserves to be rewarded. Incentives and perks will help you get others to do things for you. A romantic eve- ning will improve a relationship. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Don't spend time reliving past disappointments. Think positively and head in a direc- tion that will bring you greater satisfaction and higher rewards. It's up to you to improve your situation. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Do what you can for others. You never know when it will be your turn to ask for help. A partner- ship will undergo major changes. Be prepared to negotiate. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Reconsider the direction in which you're heading. If you feel there is something lacking, do some soul-searching. Being a success at something you dis- like is not rewarding. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Things will not go as planned. Don't take your disappointment out on others. Your family and friends are there to help. If you are mindful, you'll be treated better. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Deception is evident. Someone will try to undermine your reputation. You can dispel negative rumors by doing your job meticulously and without complaint. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Mixing business with pleasure will work in your favor. Submit a proposal to associates and friends alike. The reaction you get will give you valuable insight that will help you proceed. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — You will come up against obstacles. Don't waste time trying to get others to do what you want. Busy yourself with a solitary project until people are more receptive to your plans. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, OCT. 3 SATURDAY, OCTOBER 3, 2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B