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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Afewmonths ago, I was told by "Carly," an acquaintance, that my employee "Bernadette's" entire family was killed in a truly horrific, violent and tragic crime when she was young. Carly prefaced this story with, "I really shouldn't tell you ...," to which I responded, "Then please don't!" but Carly proceeded. Berna- dette had already told me that her parents died when she was young. I have known Carly for 10 years (though only to say "hi" to) but I also know that she is a blabbermouth. I was appalled by this breach of privacy, and de- cided not to say anything to Bernadette about it. Now I'm having second thoughts. If Carly was so quick to tell me, what's to say she hasn't already told lots of people? I think I would want to know if someone was spreading my tragic history around town. What do you think? —WanttoDothe Right Thing DEAR WANT » I would not want to know if someone was sp readi ng my tragic history around town. Think this through: If "Carly" is the rumor- monger you say she is, then she has already used her trumpet. I'm not sure what the utility is of notifying "Bernadette." Bringing this up to her will only emphasize to her that she has been discussed. Surely she deserves to let this story lie quietly with you. When you are told tragic gossip about some- one you are not called upon to do anything, except to feel compassion for the subject. The only person you need to speak with is "Carly." And to her you should say, "I regret that you told me this personal story about one of my employees. It seems un- kind to spread this story. I asked you to stop at the time but now I wish I had been more forceful." DEAR AMY » It seems that people are forgetting simple manners. There seems to be a sense that their own entitlement makes them believe that they are allowed to con- front a mother as she is purchasing groceries via the WIC program. What does one say to intervene in the least con- frontational way possible? — Want to Intervene DEAR WANT » It is shock- ing how often people will weigh in with their opin- ions about behavior that has no impact on them. We all make assumptions. A polite person will chal- lenge her assumptions be- fore deciding to comment. Rather than intervene with the aggressor, I think it could be more ef- fective to offer support to the aggrieved. Let's say you are standing in line behind a person using her WIC card to purchase grocer- ies, which aren't deemed "healthy" to someone else in line. The other person confronts the shopper in a way that is rude. Instead of confronting the aggressive person, you touch the shopper's arm and reassure her by say- ing, "I want you to know that not everybody stands in judgment." Employer learns awful, tragic gossip about an employee You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Libra(Sept.23-Oct.23)— You will earn respect if you are not afraid to speak out about important issues. You will outdo the competition if you control your emotions. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Take action. A career oppor- tunity will develop through an unexpected resource. Celebrate with someone you love. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Minor health issues will bog you down. Work on a creative project that will keep you away from groups. 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