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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihavebeen dating my boyfriend for a year now. The only issue that came up between us is when I told him I would rather that he not keep in touch with past girlfriends. I said abso- lutely no contact. He can have contact with his ex- wife because they have kids, but not girlfriends. He agreed. Last night I found out that he has been in con- tact with a past girlfriend. His excuse was that he replied to an email out of respect. Now I'm feeling betrayed and so hurt. I do not know if I can forgive him. What should I do? —FeelingBetrayed DEAR FEELING » Respond- ing to an email is not a betrayal. Of course you can forgive him — if you choose to. When someone disappoints you, under- standing and forgiveness should be your goal. Your boyfriend defied the rule you dictated, but he didn't rob a man. Perhaps he has a history of cheat- ing — and your behavior makes it seem as if you have a history of being cheated on, otherwise you wouldn't feel the need to control this aspect of your boyfriend's life. Though I agree that partners shouldn't be in touch with exes (unless there is an open friend- ship), if the person you are with has always behaved in a trustworthy manner toward you, then you should assume that he will continue to be trustworthy. You should not snoop, and if you have concerns, you should talk about them and also listen to how he responds. Imagine how different- ly this would have gone if you had simply said, "I have to be honest, this makes me feel nervous. I thought we agreed on this. I feel really disap- pointed and discouraged." If he offers to be transparent and asks for forgiveness, then you should make more of an effort to escape from your own feelings, forgive him and move on. DEAR AMY » I recently ran into an old friend and we set up a date to have after-work drinks in a few weeks to catch up. Three years ago I asked her out on a date, but she declined because she was in a relationship. Last year we were scheduled to do drinks (as friends) and her boyfriend vetoed it at the last minute, saying he felt uncomfortable. I had forgotten that. How should I ask if he's now comfortable with it, if he's even still in the picture? — Ethically Conflicted DEAR CONFLICTED » Your friend's relationship should not be your con- cern. She is in charge of her own choices regard- ing how she wants to spend her time — in- cluding the choice to let her boyfriend's comfort di ct at e th e te r m s of h er contact with you. She may no longer be with this person; if she is still in the relationship, you might receive another last-minute cancellation. Part of your "catch-up" will be to find out about each other's personal lives; wait until you see her to do this in person. Boyfriend presses 'send' and girlfriend can't comprehend You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Virgo(Aug.23-Sept.22)— Get input from the people you live with before you decide to alter your living space. You will face challenges if you go ahead with your plans. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Follow your intuition. You have all the right moves, so don't be thrown off by someone else's fears or doubts. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Stressful financial matters will take a toll on your health. Get professional advice if you are being compromised by un- sound investment practices. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Family dynamics will be strained, but you should review your own actions before you accuse anyone. Emotional out- bursts will be damaging. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You are a generous person, but that doesn't mean you should take on someone else's responsibilities. Forget about lending or borrowing money or possessions. A partnership looks promising. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Expand your horizons. There is nothing you can't do once you have made up your mind. Go after your dreams. Take the plunge and start something you've always wanted to pursue. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Romance is in the air. Lofty travel plans or expensive home renovations are best put on hold. Your budget can stretch only so far before you end up in a compromising position. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Money is in the stars. Progress will be slow at first, but you will gain momentum as the day wears on. Patience and persis- tence will win out. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Do what you can to help improve an ailing or elderly rela- tive's life. Instead of trying to keep up with the neighbors, take stock of what you have and be thankful. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Take the initiative. The more people you meet, the more chances you have to present what you have to offer. Lack of participation will not bring about the changes you desire. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Make sure you protect your family and assets. Consider your security before making any hasty decisions. Offering too much personal information will invite trouble. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Ditch your glum funk and make plans to do something enjoy- able. Attitude will make a dif- ference as your day progresses. Sports or physical challenges will get your juices flowing. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, SEPT. 19 SATURDAY,SEPTEMBER19,2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B