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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myfather is 91 and has dementia. He recently had a health scare. I learned he gave an advanced directive with a "do not resusci- tate" order to my brother. My mother is in good health and would miss my father if he died. I told my brother that giving the DNR order to the doctor was condemning Dad to die and that we should fol- low Mom's wishes to keep him alive. Mom agrees with ev- eryone she talks with, but I know what she really wants. My father signed the directive years ago and I think my mother's wishes should prevail. How can I get my brother to under- stand he is tearing our family apart? —AngryinAnaheim DEAR ANGRY » If your mother agrees with every- one she talks to, then how can you be sure you know what she really wants? If your father filled out this advanced directive and DNR when he was of sound mind, then it is HIS wishes that should prevail. The whole point of this directive is to en- sure that the individual's wishes are respected. You are obviously hav- ing a very hard time with this. You should talk to a hospital social worker and family members to come to terms with your father's directive. DEAR AMY » My u nc le 's wife, "Marilyn," is very difficult. She invites herself to other people's Facebook accounts, and tells humiliating stories about others. She has been passive- aggressively taunting me after my difficult breakup with a girlfriend. I have not been in a stable relationship since my breakup, but both of my brothers have signifi- cant others, and Marilyn throws this in my face. Marilyn even invited my ex-girlfriend to a private family gathering where she didn't belong. My ex attended and was revealing her reputation for promiscuity. My uncle can't control Marilyn's behavior. This type of harassment even got her slapped with a no- contact order by a family member, which she was clearly asking for. How do I make it clear that I do not appreciate this type of disrespect without resorting to such legal restraint? — Alienated Nephew DEAR NEPHEW » You don't clarify what behavior got your aunt "Marilyn" slapped with a no-contact order, but none of the behavior you cite in your query seems dangerous to you. Your aunt sounds like a serious boundary cross- er, but it isn't necessarily harassment when she is a passive-aggressive jerk. So you should institute your own private and in- formal "no-contact order." Tell your aunt, "I don't appreciate your com- ments and feel very dis- respected." Do not expect her to apologize to you. After that, you should hide/block your aunt on email and social media, and leave any event where you feel uncomfortable. 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