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Am I the bad guy here? —Judgmental Daughter DEAR DAUGHTER » Given how you describe your parents' behavior and their situation regarding your sister, your good judgment is laudable; your being judgmental is perhaps inevitable. People who "enable" tend to see their behavior as an expression of devo- tion. But enabling is its own form of dysfunction because the enabler is avoiding the discomfort from saying "no." Your relationship with your parents will improve if you continue to exercise your own good judgment, while accepting their con- siderable flaws without passing harsh judgment. DEAR AMY » My mother- in-law, 84, needs physical therapy. She lives alone. Her two daughters (both retired) live in town and check on her daily. There are several adult grand- children in town. We live in another state. Both my husband and I work full time. This morning my husband re- ceived an email from his sisters, stating it is very tiring for them and they request he come home for a week to take her to her physical therapy and keep her company. These two daughters have each, this summer, had extensive vacations. My husband and I have had little vacation time due to the trips he has made to his mother's in the past two years. I think in their retire- ment, his sisters have forgotten what it is like to be working. I don't know how to deal with this, or is it my place? — Working Wife DEAR WORKING » It is not appropriate for you to put your husband's sisters in their place. My own take is that you and your husband may lack some perspec- tive on how depleting long-term elder caretak- ing can be. If his sisters are older than he, they might be experiencing some of their own health problems. He should offer to help any way he can; if he can't take a family leave from work to check in on his mother, perhaps he can pay for a local care- giver to take some of the burden off his sisters. The Eldercare Locator is an extremely helpful resource, and a good place to start the search: eldercare.gov. Adultdaughterjudgesher parents' enabling behavior You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Leo(July23-Aug.22)— Your growing communication skills will increase your oppor- tunities to learn more and con- fidently apply what you discover to everyday life. 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