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Saturday, February 11, 2012 – Daily News FEATURES Matriarch mulls material momentos Dear Annie: I am 90 years old and am con- cerned that after I die my kids will squabble over my things. So I would like to work it out before that hap- pens. I have a daughter who lives in another state and two wonderful daughters- in-law who live nearby. "Dora'' and my oldest son have helped me the most. When my husband was still living, they arranged a reverse mortgage on our house by making us a loan from their personal funds. When my husband became feeble, Dora began doing my grocery shopping. Every Sunday, she brings a nice dinner, and my son does any needed repairs around the house. She always brings me a gift on Mother's Day and on my birthday. I already have given Dora two nice heirlooms, and I know she would like to have my mother's ster- ling silver. My daughter will get the antique wall clock, and my other daugh- ter-in-law gets the china closet. How do I divide the rest of the stuff? Should I give Dora the sterling now? — Old in Indiana Dear Indiana: Please speak to an estate planner or, at the very least, a lawyer who can handle your will. As tempting as it is to give more to Dora than the others, it could create all sorts of resent- ments later. The division of your estate should be rela- tively equal, but you can make special gifts of pieces of jewelry or sentimental items. If you think your children will behave them- Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar selves, it can help to discuss this with all of them in advance, asking each child to select one item that they w ould like to have. And yes, you can give it to them while you are around to see them enjoy it. Dear Annie: Am I the only person who is disap- pointed by generic email Christmas and birthday cards? They seem so impersonal, and I do not appreciate receiving such cold greetings. One longtime friend has resorted to this, in spite of the fact that I always mail her an old-fashioned, hand- signed card. How can I get her to stop sending me email cards without hurting her feelings? Would it be rude to return the greeting to her? I'm an old-fashioned person who was raised dur- ing the age of smoke sig- nals and find that life used to be much simpler and warmer. — Over-Seventy Attitude Dear Attitude: We agree that email cards are less personal than hand- written notes, but it does take a certain amount of effort to select the right one from hundreds of possibili- ties, so try to give your friend credit for that. And many people have stopped sending cards altogether, which is a shame. Please accept these cards in the spirit in which they were sent — that is, to convey good wishes to you. (But do please continue to send handwritten notes of your own. They are much more charming.) Dear Annie: ''Iowa'' doesn't like that her hus- band still goes to bars, but when he asks whether it's OK for him to go alone, she always says ''yes.'' She should tell her hus- band that her interests have changed and then work on a compromise. Why not tell him directly that she really wants to be with him on those precious week- ends when he opts to go out with friends? She could propose specific activities she would like instead. She could even suck it up and agree to accompany him once a month. And if the point of going to bars is being with friends, perhaps she could host an event for them at her home. — FredDear Fred: You are correct that if she doesn't express her- self, the situation isn't like- ly to change. We like your suggestions and hope she will consider them. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net , or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Proper poltry can be healthful Q: I recently saw Harvard's Healthy Eating Plate and noticed that poultry was listed as a healthy protein. I am not surprised that you're recom- mending fish, nuts or beans. But why poultry? A. While fish, nuts and beans are by far the healthiest proteins you can add to your diet, poultry does have an advantage over beef, lamb and pork. The main reason Har- vard's Healthy Eating Plate lists chick- en and turkey as healthy sources of protein is that they have relatively low levels of saturated fat compared with red meat. From a nutritional point of view, beef, lamb and pork are all clas- sified as red meats. There is about half as much saturat- ed as unsaturated fat in chicken and turkey. By comparison, beef and pork contain a good deal more saturated fat than chicken and turkey and less unsat- urated fat. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. skinless to reduce fat. processed white flour and con- tains lots of salt. The exact ingredients vary depending on the brand or restaurant, but it's a safe bet that very little, if any, whole grain is used in these preparations. And most will be high in fat because of the way they are processed or prepared. When the Healthy Eating Plate mentions chicken or turkey as healthy proteins, it is referring to baked poultry, preferably A quick summary of other recom- mendations made on the Healthy Eat- ing Plate includes the following advice: — Make half your meal vegetables and fruits. Go for variety. And keep in mind that potatoes and French fries don't count. fat — and, for that matter, other nutri- ents — in a particular dish is going to vary, depending on the cut of meat and how it's cooked. But even after accounting for these differences, chicken and turkey dishes will almost always contain less saturated fat than red meat dishes. That's because chick- en and turkey have so much less satu- rated fat than red meat to begin with. What's the rap on saturated fat? It increases heart attack and stroke risk when compared to healthy fats. "Healthy fats" means the monounsatu- rated and polyunsaturated fat in fish, olive oil and other vegetable oils. This does not include trans fat, most of which is artificially produced from veg- etable oil. Trans fat is even worse than saturated fat when it comes to increas- ing heart disease and stroke risk. One important point of clarification: Saying that chicken is a healthful pro- tein should not be interpreted as an endorsement of chicken nuggets or other prepared fried chicken dishes as some kind of health food. This could- n't be further from the truth. Most chicken nuggets are coated with a batter that is made from February 1st Of course, the amount of saturated — Choose whole grains whenever you can. Limit refined grains, like white rice and white bread, because they produce a rapid rise in blood sugar. 3rd Annual Donate your non-perishable food items February 1st through 14th The perfect time to show just how much you care! Now City Wide! To thank you for your generous food donations there well be a drawing from among the food donors for 8 gift certificates valued at $25 each from local businesses. Look for the specially marked boxes and make your heartfelt donation at any of our participating merchants Adobe Road Chevron Amundson Physical Therapy Antelope Veterinary Hospital Balloons & More Bob's Tire Center Bud's Jolly Kone BR Growing Supplies Cabernet Apartments California Kitchen & Co Care Net Pregnancy Center Carmona's Appliance Catherine Salas Allstate Insurance Co Compassionate Health Center Cornerstone Community Bank Countryside Cafe Corp Cozy Diner Crossroads Feed & Ranch Dale's Carpet & Design Discover Earth Dolling Insurance Dr. Donald Shoff Durango RV Resort Edward Jones – Susie Mustaine Edward Jones –Tyler Smail Ehorn's Antiques Elmore Pharmacy Express Employment Professionals Finders Keepers Thrift & Antiques First Love Tattoo Flower Boutique Francisco's Taqueria Gary Ramsey Jewelers Gregg R. Frey, CPA Growney Motors Gumm's Optical Shoppe House Of Design Jack The Ribber Job Training Center KTHM Radio 90.7 FM La Corona Restaurant Lariat Bowl Lassen House Law Office Of Dennis Albright Les Schwab Tires Linda Durrer Farmers Insurance M & M Ranch House Montana Morrison Gallery New Asian Restaurant Norm's Printing Northern California Title Company Owens Healthcare # 5 Paratransit Services Peacock Emporium Placer Title Co. Plum Crazy — Pick the healthiest sources of protein, such as fish, poultry, beans and nuts; cut back on red meat; avoid bacon, cold cuts and other processed meats. — Healthy oils (like olive and canola oil) are good for you. Don't be afraid to use them for cooking, on sal- ads and at the table. — Drink water, tea or coffee. Milk and dairy are not must-have foods; limit them to one to two servings a day. Go easy on juice. Avoid sugary drinks. — And stay active! Chicken can be part of a good, healthy diet — a diet that reduces your risk of disease and helps control your weight. But chicken and most other foods can be junked up and made unhealthy, depending on how they are prepared. Even within the realm of healthy proteins, you still need to assess healthfulness on a case-by-case basis. Remember, too, that your over- all, long-term dietary pattern is what matters most, not a wing or thigh here and there. Submit questions to harvard_adviser@hms.harvard.edu. through 14th Food From The Heart canned food drive Look for these donation boxes at your favorite local businesses Express Your Gratitude We CHALLENGE all Red Bluff households to open your cabinets & donate 3 cans of food. 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