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Thursday, February 9, 2012 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Multiple monikers mean misunderstanding Dear Annie: My wife, ''Jane,'' and I have been married for five years, and she is the love of my life. She has an identical twin sister named ''Jordan.'' The two women are best friends. Jordan is at our house four or five times a week, but does not impose on our marriage. She is a great sister-in-law and gives us our space. Jane has an 8-year-old son from a previous rela- tionship whose middle name is also Jordan, after his aunt. I've watched the boy grow up and have gotten to know him well over the past several years. I love him as if he were my own. Recently, Jane discovered she is pregnant with our first child. Natu- rally, I'm thrilled. However, despite my objections, she is determined to name the child Jordan, regardless of gender. Ordinarily, I wouldn't care, because Aunt Jordan is a good role model. But there are already two people in the family who have that name. Am I right, or should I be more sensitive to my wife's wishes? — Steve in Ohio Dear Steve: You need to be sen- sitive to hers, but she also needs to be sensitive to yours. Ask her to compromise. Point out how confus- ing it could be if both your child and Aunt Jordan are in the same room. And some children are highly sensi- tive to being named for a relative of the opposite sex. You also can agree Situated behind two beautiful magnolia trees on Hickory Street lies a unique and contemporary grocer that offers every- thing from organic produce to natural snacks and local products, all accompanied by an atmosphere that channels the artistic mantra of downtown Berkeley. Wholesome Goods is new to Red Bluff as of October 2011. Owner Jes- sica Sylvia is a strong advocate for everything healthy, organic and afford- able for her customers. Her goal is to get local and organic farmers to supply to her store so more people can eat healthfully and locally even throughout the winter months when the farmers markets are closed. A few local businesses that already supply Whole- some Goods are Lucero Olive Oil, Pacific Sun Olive Oil, Maisie Janes, Kitchel Organics, Lar- son's honey, Nickler eggs, Rossers Bakery, Big Al's pome- granate juice and jelly, Heath Ranch Organics and Lundberg Family Farms. Sylvia is try- ing to entice some of her local purveyors to do a "meet your farmer at the gro- cery" day once a week, so customers can ask questions and close the gap between farm and table. In addition, Sylvia is looking into working in partnership with the SERRF afterschool pro- gram through Vista Middle school, where students are growing a school garden and may sell their produce to Wholesome Goods. The garden is not certified organic yet, but the appro- priate paperwork to become certified is being looked into. Wholesome Goods also works with W.I.C. a gov- ernment-funded program for women, infants and children who may be at risk for nutritional deficiencies. GRAND OPENING Elite Skin Care 60 minute with massage $25~$55 per hour & Spa Facials~ Waxing~and more Eyebrows $5 Gift Certificates Available Owners, Mike & Trisa Waelty 741 Main St., Suite #14 526-8713 3 Day Sale February 9, 10 & 11 50%off Clarks Floral inside Clark's Drug Store 2126 Solano St. Corning 824-3502 wholeheartedly to have it as a less-used middle name instead. But if your attempts Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar prove futile, it may not be worth the damage a protract- ed argument would cause. Children somehow manage to grow up just fine in fami- lies where multiple people are named for the same rela- tive. And if the confusion is too great, you can call your child by a nickname. Dear Annie: My daugh- ter is 27, and her fiance is 29. Sev- eral months ago, they announced their engagement and set a wedding date for November. However, her fiance has medical issues, and they wanted him to be covered under her plan, so they decided to get married earlier. I was told about this, and it was OK with me, provided it was legal. As it turns out, they had a nice little wedding in a park with guests and family members who live nearby. My wife and I were out of town, so I was allowed to call in and hear it via teleconference. Now that they are legally mar- ried, however, they still want a ''real'' wedding in November. My daughter's mother died four years ago, so it's just my new wife and I who would be handling it. Should we call it a wedding or just an event or something else? — Robert Dear Robert: We hope your daughter and her fiance are financ- ing and arranging their own wed- ding, regardless of what they call it. Fortunately, it's not your job to come up with a title for the event. Your safest bet is to call it whatever your daughter prefers, be it ''wed- ding,'' ''renewal of vows,'' ''mar- riage reception,'' ''wedding party'' or anything else. Dear Annie: Like ''Unhappy Husband,'' I am confused and dis- appointed that my wife enjoys sex but will not initiate it. I would feel happier if I knew she was sexually attracted to me. This may sound silly, but it isn't simply the act of sex that is important. It's the feeling of connectedness and the belief that she wants to be emotionally joined to me. It's particularly discouraging when she says, ''Do we have to do it now?'' What man is going to say he needs sex? I feel rejected. On those occasions when she changes her mind, she will say, ''I suppose we can have sex now.'' This is not exciting, supportive or romantic. I have told her how I feel, and we have discussed it to the point where I will not talk about it anymore. — Also Unhappy Dear Unhappy: Professional counseling may help your commu- nication issues. Please try. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. New market offers local, healthy goods Antibiotics safe to treat uninary infections DEAR DOC- TOR K: I'm a 42- year-old woman. This year I've had four urinary tract infections. Each cleared up with antibiotics. But now my doctor wants me to take a preventive antibi- otic every day. Is this safe? Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. DEAR READER: Uri- nary tract infections (UTIs) are surprisingly common in women of all ages. Most UTIs occur in the bladder. As you know from experience, the symptoms include fre- quent, urgent and painful urination, bloody urine, and pressure or pain in your lower abdomen. Less often, your kidneys may become infected. Most UTIs are caused by E. coli, bacteria that live in human feces. E. coli can travel from the anus to the urethra during such activities as going to the bathroom and having sex. From the urethra, the bacteria can move up the urinary tract to the bladder or kidneys. Antibiotics are effec- tive in preventing recur- rent UTIs, and it is safe to take antibiotics preven- tively for up to several years. Still, one concern is the creation of antibiotic- resistant bacteria. These bacteria can cause infec- tions that cannot be treat- ed with antibiotics. Your doctor will try to avoid this by prescribing the lowest dose that's still effective. You may also experi- ence side effects. These can include diarrhea, nau- sea and yeast infections of the vagina or mouth. Some couples don't Jadda Miller Fresh Those who are eligible receive Wholesome Goods (WIC approved) groceries, while being exposed to organic and local foods; most of which are not offered in supermarkets. It is a rare treat for all of us that live in Red Bluff to have such a location that will carry these high quali- ty products at a lower than aver- age price. If you have children, take them by and teach them about proper nutrition while they can push their own miniature shopping cart; the bright colors and warm atmosphere of Wholesome Goods is an inviting and relaxing environment for children to explore the wondrous world of food. Wholesome Goods not only has great produce available, but a wide selec- tion and variety of organic packaged snack foods like granola bars, whole grain cookies, dried fruits, nuts and more. Make sure and bring your own bags if you're planning on doing a lot of shopping; Sylvia can give you a thoroughly researched and justified reason for why she does not provide bags, but to sum it up in a nut shell — grocery bags are obviously contributing to landfill build up. Plastic bags are from the same source as all plastic, crude oil — a non- renewable resource. Sadly, paper is no better. It takes nearly four times as much energy to manufacture a paper bag as it does to man- ufacture a plastic bag. This is just another example of how Wholesome Goods is not only helping to better serve our community but our entire planet. Sylvia and Wholesome Goods is a breath of fresh air that we have all been well overdue to experience; with the support of our tight knit community, this local business will be able to have a successful and bright future for many years to come. Check out the new hot spot on Hicko- ry Street for a taste that's straight out of Tehama County. Winter hours are 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Monday through Saturday. Jadda Miller was born and raised in Red Bluff and trained at the Napa Valley Culinary School in St. Helena.She has worked in Napa Valley, Paris, France, Sydney, Australia and Chez Panisse, in Berkeley. Jadda teaches cooking classes at California Kitchen Company in Red Bluff and That Kitchen Place in Redding. She has a deep passion for working with fresh seasonal ingredients straight from the garden, and is an avid supporter of local farms and sustainable agriculture. have sex that often, or have long periods without sex. This happens if one or both people travel a lot for their work, for example. If your recurrent UTIs tend to occur following sex, you have an alternative to taking an antibiotic every day. Instead, you can take them only after intercourse. You've heard of the "morning- after" pill? Think of this as the "evening-of" pill. Another approach is to take antibi- otics for a day or two at the first sign of symptoms. If you're still concerned, try the follow- ing to prevent your risk of recurrent UTIs. If these steps are effective, you may be able to forgo the antibiotics. — Urinate before and after intercourse. — Drink plenty of flu- ids throughout the day. — Urinate as soon as you have the urge, when- ever possible. — Wipe front to back after a bowel movement. — If you are post- menopausal, try a vaginal estrogen cream. Why do some women get recurrent uri- nary tract infections? Some are born with a con- dition that causes bacteria to stick more tightly to the cells of or near their uri- nary tract. Currently, there is no treatment for this. You're just born with a small genetic curse. Much less often, defects in the shape of the urinary tract are the cause. One example is a kidney stone that is blocking some part of the system. Such abnormalities can be detected by imaging tests such as an ultrasound or a CT scan. Fortunately, most recurrent urinary tract infections are not caused by a serious problem and do not lead to serious complications. They just cause aggravating symp- toms. Today, we know of good treatments to reduce the number a woman gets. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. Go to his website to send questions and get additional information: www.AskDoctorK.com. Retail workshops offered Northeastern California Small Business Develop- ment Center at Butte College is presenting a series of workshops "Retail Management for success for exist- ing businesses". Workshops are 7:30-9:30 a.m. Thursdays through Feb. 23 at the SBDC Center, 19 Williamsburg Lane, in Chico. Cost is $50 per person preregistered or $60 at the door. Effective retail management is crucial for ensuring on-going profit and sustainability of your retail busi- ness. The workshop's focus is for retail management only. Participants will also learn how to differentiate your business from competition, budget for success and how to effectively use credit in your retail busi- ness. For more information or to register call 895-9017.