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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mystep- daughter is 24. She is the mother of a toddler. She and her husband have struggled with meth addiction and she is cur- rently clean and away from him (for the last two months). My husband and I have taken her in several times to try to get her clean but she always turns back to her husband and drugs. Currently she and her son are living with her mother several states away and are planning a visit soon, which I am not looking forward to. She has stolen my wed- ding ring and prescrip- tion drugs when we have trusted and tried to help her in the past. My husband is more of an enabler than I am and chooses to forgive and forget but I am very wary, especially when we have two teenage daughters at home. I believe her main focus for the visit is to see her husband, who moved back here to stay with friends. She has been in recovery several times before but it doesn't last. Should I give her a second (more like 10th) chance for the sake of our grandchild? —Worried DEAR WORRIED » Each time you and your hus- band "help" his addicted daughter, you have the same experience. On the one hand, I think it is a good idea to have her and her son visit — mainly to give him a safe, loving and fun expe- rience with you and your family (especially if the alternative is her taking the child to stay with his meth-addicted father and his friends). On the other hand, you should prepare for your stepdaughter to relapse (this seems inevitable, given her history and her choice to spend time with her husband). You should see what changes your household can make to try to ensure a different outcome than all of the previous times. Do NOT trust her — with anything. Remove ALL medications, alcohol, family valuables and anything else that might be a trigger or temptation for your stepdaughter. Coach your children not to "lend" or give her any money or jewelry. Find an addiction counselor and/or recovery program in your area that she can attend while she is with you. You and your husband s ho ul d ha ve a p la n in place for what you will do if/when she relapses while she is staying with you. Your family needs professional help in order to manage this extreme challenge — and I hope you will get it. DEAR AMY » "Car Poor" described the discomfort of having a friend who is a terrible driver and yet periodically wants to bor- row the couple's car. Most insurance plans will not cover drivers not listed on the plan. If anything hap- pened in the borrowed car, it could be disastrous. — W orr ied DEAR WORRIED » Many readers pointed this out. Thank you all. Stepmother worries about visit by addict stepdaughter You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Leo(July23-Aug.22)— You will make a good impression on someone and will experience growth and change. A new proj- ect will become lucrative. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — You will be uncertain regarding your next move. Take time to make an informed decision and don't give in to domineering or overbearing individuals. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Personal difficulties will be resolved if you open up to those who care about you. Someone who has gone through a similar circumstance will offer advice. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — It is necessary to set the record straight for a meddling family member who wants to become involved in your per- sonal problems. Sagittarius (Nov. 23- Dec. 21) — Someone who has caused you pain will try to make amends. It's up to you to decide if this person deserves a second chance. A self-improvement program will bring amazing results. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Don't fall for insincere flattery. Read between the lines. Not everyone who praises you is being honest. Don't allow yourself to be used to make someone else jealous. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Your honest and trustworthy nature will cause someone to seek your advice. Be careful that your empathy doesn't cause you to take on someone else's prob- lems. Offer suggestions only. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Your hard work and integrity will be rewarded. Do what you can to the best of your ability, and ignore those who try to make you feel unworthy. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Sign up to take part in stimulat- ing educational or intellectual discussions. Any enhancement to your skills or knowledge will serve you well in the future. Gain confidence. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Be wary of tempting financial deals. Unless you know all the details and facts, you are likely to face a financial downturn. In- vest in yourself and your talents, not in someone else. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Adjustments to your personal life should be put into play if you are feeling abused or unappreci- ated. Don't stay in a situation out of habit or fear. Prepare to make a move. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You will know in your gut if an upcoming opportunity to make a change is right for you. Guard against disappointment by get- ting a contract or agreement in writing before you commit. 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