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Thursday, February 2, 2012 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Constant carousing causes coed concern Dear Annie: I am a col- lege freshman. My sister, ''Katie,'' is a sophomore in high school. I am on good terms with many of her friends. One, ''Jessie,'' is a bit wild. In November, Jessie messaged me on Facebook. She said she had transferred to a private school because the public school ''wasn't good for rebels.'' She told me she drank and attended crazy parties. She said she often does her homework ''while hammered,'' and that she was writ- ing me during Spanish class. When I came home for winter break, I mentioned the conversation to Katie. She believes if I send this to Jessie's parents, it will cause a huge rift between our families. She thinks I should send it to Jessie's school because they are the only ones who can effect any change. Should I send this to her school? Wouldn't they question my motives, especially since I've waited so long to do anything? — Confused Col- lege Student Dear Student: You have no idea whether Jessie is telling the truth or simply trying to shock you. The message could even be a cry for help, in the hope that someone will care enough to be upset with her. Her parents are already aware of her problems, and we doubt the school is oblivious. On your next trip home, it would Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar be a kindness to drop by and talk to Jessie's parents. Ask how she's doing. If they think their daughter has shaped up, you should express your concern that this may not be so. You also can suggest to Jessie that she talk to the school counselor. But beyond that, we caution you to stay out of it. Dear Annie: My fiance, ''Steve,'' has a rocky rela- tionship with his sister, ''Sara.'' We live in New York and are planning to marry next year in Georgia. The problem is, Steve doesn't want Sara to be a bridesmaid, because he thinks she will create drama, and he doesn't want our day to be about her. But she is going to be my sister-in-law, and I'd like her to be one of my bridesmaids. I hope to build a close relationship with her in the future. Since she will have to travel from New York to Georgia to attend the wedding anyway, I cannot imagine not asking her to be in the bridal party. My sister and brother will be attendants, along with one of my cousins. Steve has promised to abide by your advice. — New York Dear New York: We think you should give Sara the opportunity to do the right thing. It could be a good way for her to make amends for past hurts and be closer to her brother. Everyone deserves a second chance. If she becomes difficult or problem- atic while you are making wedding plans, it is OK to tell her you think she might prefer to attend the wed- ding as a guest. Dear Annie: I'd like to tell ''In Doubt'' that if she has a gut feeling that her husband is having an affair, he probably is. Had anyone asked who had the most perfect marriage, the answer would have been my husband and me. After 40 years, I believed he was honest and sincere, but he began flirting with a younger woman in our neighborhood. When I asked him about little things that bothered me, he always assured me there was nothing going on. When I finally discovered the truth, the affair had gone on for four years. He'd taken this woman on vacation (supposedly a men's fish- ing trip) and met up with her for sex in all sorts of places. It was new and exciting to him. So, if you have that gut feeling and there are worrisome signs, hire a detective. You may not think he would lie, but men get so carried away and feel so young that they would say anything to be able to continue. — Been There Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. DFG to offer late season goose hunts The California Fish and Game Commission has approved a third 2011/2012 late season hunting opportunity for geese. Licensed hunters can now hunt white-fronted geese and white geese during the late season for geese in the Balance of the State Zone. This is in addition to the already established late season goose hunts in the North Coast and Imperial Coun- ty Special Management Areas. The purpose of these late season goose hunts is to reduce goose crop depredation complaints on private lands. Provid- ing hunting opportunities in the late season will help reduce potential crop depredation by low- ering the population(s) and shifting geese onto public areas. Most goose populations that winter in California are at or above population goals and remain in California through late spring. Pro- viding hunting opportu- nities at this time helps minimize potential dam- age on agricultural lands. All late season goose hunts are closed on Type A and B wildlife areas. However, other public lands open to waterfowl hunting may be open dur- ing these late season hunts. The new season in the Balance of the State Zone will be open from Feb. 18 through Feb. 22. A daily bag limit of eight geese is Proper equipment, warm-up prevent sports injuries DEAR DOC- TOR K: My teenage son plays several school sports. He loves them, but I'm con- cerned about sports injuries. DEAR READ- ER: Playing sports is a great way for your teen to get regular exercise, meet other teens and learn teamwork. Of course, kids can get injured while playing sports. Fortunate- ly, the risk of serious injury is low. Still, there's a risk. for re-injury. Get advice from his doctor or team trainer on when he can return to the sport. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. When your teen is playing informally, there's no coach around to make sure he's following all of the safety precau- That's not a reason to prohibit your son from playing sports, but it is a good reason to make sure he plays safely. Many sports injuries can be avoided, and there's a lot that you — and your son — can do to help him stay safe. First, make sure your teen has the proper equip- ment for the sport he is playing. This includes safety gear such as kneepads, goggles, wrist pads, shin guards, mouth guards, helmets, elbow pads and proper footwear. Make sure that his equip- ment fits correctly. You might also talk to his coach to be sure that he (and the other kids) use their equipment. Your teen also needs to warm up and stretch before every practice ses- sion or game. Muscles that have not been used in a while tend to be injured more easily. Your teen should first do some light aerobic exercise, such as jogging or jump- ing jacks, for five to 10 minutes. Then he should spend a few minutes stretching all of his mus- cles. Even if your son fol- lows this advice, he still might get injured. If he is, it is critical that he takes time off to allow that injury to heal. Playing too soon increases the chance tions we've talked about. That's when the chance of injury is the highest. The hardest part of get- ting a teenager to take safety precautions, of course, is that teenagers think they're immortal. Making sure they protect themselves against injury is not the first thing on their mind. It's not even the last thing. If they're not worried about getting hurt, how can you convince them to take precautions? Most teenagers care above all about being part of a group. They may not worry about getting hurt, but they surely worry about not being able to play. So stress that. Make sure your son realizes that if he is injured, he'll have to watch his friends from the sideline. And if he plays hurt, the injury could worsen — and then he'll have to watch from the sideline for a long time. So whether you're advising your son to use shoulder pads when play- ing football, or to wear a helmet and elbow and knee guards when in-line skating with his friends, don't emphasize the injury. Emphasize the consequences of the injury: He won't be one of the guys. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. Go to his website to send questions and get additional information: www.AskDoctorK.com. Seeking tips in deer poaching The Department of Fish and Game (DFG) is seeking assistance from the public regarding recent deer poaching in the Cassel area in Shasta County. 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