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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Wehave always been very close to our son. Since he has been in a serious relation- ship with a woman, he seems to have put her first — and on a pedestal. We feel like we don't know him anymore and don't see him so much anymore. We have heard how sons lean toward the girl's side and that daughters are closer to their own families. There have been hor- rible stories about future daughter-in-laws. We are told to be careful of how we behave and what we say. I want us all to be close. How should we deal with this possible future daughter-in-law? —WorriedMom DEAR WORRIED » You don't mention making any ef- fort at all to get to know your son's partner. Surely he could do a better job of bringing you together, but he's not doing that — and so you should. It is natural for adults to create a small circle around their partner, with themselves at the center. Perhaps you and your husband did that when you first got together. Ideally, you want your son to be an intimate and involved partner to his spouse. He will do this by putting her first. And you must not only let him do this, but understand that he will do this, and accept that there are many posi- tive aspects in his choice. Do you want your son to be happy, even if he is creating some distance from you? I hope the an- swer is yes. Your response should be to convey to him, "We are delighted that you have found someone who makes you so happy. We would love to get to know her better. Can you two come to din- ner so we can get to know her?" Your concern about this distance (and silent judgment about his choices) may make the distance and tension worse. So yes, you must be careful, respectful, and open and accepting of this change in your fam- i l y sy st e m . Th i s w om an might surprise you — and you should do your best to loop her into your family. DEAR AMY » Responding to the query from "Very Worried Mom" about her son's interest in porn, going behind your parents' backs twice does not equate to addiction. I really hope that these parents have an open and frank discussion about sex with their son before assuming he is addicted to pornography. It should be a sex-positive talk that should entail what sex really is, the responsibilities and consequences involved, why it's important to have a healthy relationship with your partner, and the importance of respect for both parties involved (consent). The discussion should also cover why the pornography itself is unacceptable. — Sex Positivity DEAR POSITIVITY » Wise advice that I hope these parents follow. Couplefeeltheyarelosinga son, don't want a daughter You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Cancer(June21-July22) — Pull your own weight today. Others will be too caught up in their own pursuits to give you a hand. Conflict can be avoided if you keep opinions to yourself. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Your sincerity and enthusiasm will entice others to help you market one of your ideas. Don't be afraid to speak your mind. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Don't hold yourself back. You are a gifted individual, so you should let others see what you can do. Present and promote your ideas. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Re-evaluate your motives. It's up to you to make the changes that will improve your prospects and secure your future. Your dreams are within reach. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Heed your intuition. Some- thing is going on behind the scenes, and you will have to dig deep to discover the truth. Be careful not to let your emotions take over. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Put your heart and soul into important relationships. Stop dwelling on negative is- sues, and enjoy quality time with the people who count. Your sense of humor will attract positive attention. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Don't get coerced into a risky joint venture. A smooth talker is best ignored. Do your research thoroughly before you invest in anything. Focus on your goals, not someone else's. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Your quest for knowledge will drive you to visit a variety of locales. The facts you learn will aid you in making a decision and lead to a beneficial connection. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Be patient with an older family member. Hurt feelings will result if you don't consider the needs of others. Time spent listening and learning will be beneficial. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Moneymaking opportunities are present, but don't be too free with your cash. Your eagerness to spend money will result in a financial setback. Consider all the pros and cons. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — In contentious workplace mat- ters, you should side with other dissatisfied colleagues and make your issues known. Your future depends on your ability to deal with people diplomatically. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Pamper yourself. Make personal enhancements that boost your appeal and increase your confi- dence. Time spent in peaceful reflection will help you deter- mine what you want to do next. Horoscope By Eugenia Last WEDNESDAY, JUNE 24 WEDNESDAY,JUNE24,2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B