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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»My18-year- old daughter was dat- ing a guy for two years. Although neither her dad nor I approved of the relatio nshi p, w e kept it t o ourselves. After dating him for quite some time, my daughter admitted to me that he was emotionally abusive to her. Noth- ing was ever good enough for him. My daughter had a couple of panic at- tacks and lost 20 pounds when they went through rough times. Throughout this relationship, everyone thought her boyfriend was gay and had not come out. I had talked to her about this and she had agreed with me. Later she told me that he had been pinching her and slapping her face lightly. She was told by someone who had been in an abusive relation- ship that these were the signs of him "testing the waters, to see what he can get away with." I spent many nights crying about it with her. I tried to get her to talk to a therapist, which she would not do. She finally decided to break up with him. Now, after six weeks she has decided that she has made a mistake! I told her he is not welcome in our house be- cause of everything he has done and all of the agony he has put her through. She is now lying to us in order to see him. I told her I am going to make an appointment with the therapist again but she refuses to go. Am I wrong for not condon- ing this relationship? —WorriedMother DEAR MOTHER » You have every right to try to limit your exposure to your daughter's abusive boyfriend. However, you should acknowledge her choice, tell her this choice worries you, but ask her not to hide her involve- ment in this relationship from you. You don't want to box her into a secre- tive relationship with her abuser. Your attitude will have to be firm, but neu- tral, i.e., "We are worried about you. We don't like your choice to be with him. But we don't control you and we are here for you." Definitely keep your appointment with a therapist. You cannot force your daughter into therapy, but you should seek it for yourself. A book your daughter might find helpful is "In Love and In Danger: A Teen's Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relation- ships," by Barrie Levy (2006, Seal Press). Leave it by her bedside. DEAR AMY » Regarding, "Hostess with the Most- est," whose houseguest used a product which stains their towels, I think Hostess should save those bleached-out bath and hand towels her friends ruined and place them in the guest bathroom when they return for their next weekend visit. — Bruce DEAR BRUCE » Other read- ers suggested this passive- aggressive response. Maybe switching to white towe ls would b e a be tte r idea. Teen's abusive relationship terrifies concerned parents You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Gemini(May21-June 20) — Think about your career and personal goals, and make modifications that will help you achieve your dreams. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You may be placed in a vulner- able position if you give in to temptation. Compliments are always welcome, but they may hide an agenda. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Be- fore rushing into a life-altering decision, make sure that you have all the information neces- sary. Don't burn bridges in your pursuit of new people. 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