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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myparents separated when I was 12, and at that point my fa- ther never really bothered with me again. We started talking about four years ago. My father comes to my home, takes me to dinner every couple of months and then seems to forget about me until I call him up and ask how he's doing. I've always had to put in the effort and forgive and for- get, but he's always told me if ever I needed him, for whatever reason, he would help me — or try to be there for me. Last month I got into some financial problems. He always brags about how much money he makes, the vacation cot- tage he bought (that I've never been invited to) and his travels around the world. He just paid $25,000 for my oldest sister to go to school and is currently paying her rent. I have never in my life asked him for anything, but I thought — hey, why not? I asked him to help me out — I didn't mention an amount and, honestly, $20 would have sufficed. I needed some cash to tide me over until payday. He acted as if I was handing him a business proposition — like a "how are you going to guaran- tee this loan" kind of deal. Of course I would have paid him back. He has never been there for me. Should I keep forgiving and forget- ting everything and keep making an effort to have a relationship with him? —HurtDaughter DEAR HURT » Your father is not a good parent (to you, anyway) — he seems to have left your family when you were young and has neglected you ever since. Now you have come up with yet another way for him to disappoint you — and he did. All of this talk of "forgiving and forgetting" doesn't seem to have done you much good. Perhaps it's time for you to realize that you are no longer a lost little girl. You are an adult. Use your words. He is showing you that, despite what he says, he is not willing/able to be the father you want him to be. You don't need to "forget" this. You do need to accept it. DEAR AMY » "Concerned Friends" are worried about old friends "giving in" to physical ailments. I was diagnosed with pulmonary arterial hypertension. I would love to be able to con- tinue working, serving on boards and commissions or singing in the church choir. Rather, now I have a hard time shopping for groceries, doing simple household chores or en- tertaining friends. Perhaps the judgmen- tal Concerned could offer practical help, allowing their aging friends to find the energy to socialize. "Giving in" isn't the issue, so much as choos- ing what must be done, above what one can no longer do. — It's Not Easy DEAR EASY » I agree that "Concerned Friends" seemed to judge their friends for being unwell. Adult with divorced parents feels like abandoned child You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Gemini(May21-June20) — Trying to impress others by embellishing what you have to offer won't work. Personal and professional dealings will so- lidify faster if you are upfront. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Your community will benefit from your talents, and you will learn more about the environ- ment you live in. Important friendships will result from your involvement in local affairs. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Stick to your budget and limit major expenditures until your fi- nancial situation has stabilized. Stop being so generous. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Dwelling on past regrets will lead to a loss of confidence. A change in attitude will improve your image. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Don't feel guilty if you pamper yourself once in a while. Every- day pressures can take a toll on your health, and making a point to do the things you find most relaxing will help. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Set aside some quiet time and give your mind the freedom to wander. A calming atmo- sphere will spark your imagina- tion and help you formulate and initiate your ideas. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Difficulties getting along with others will quash any hope of group activities. Consider devoting your time and atten- tion to something you can work on all by yourself. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — The constant pursuit of career goals will limit the time you spend with loved ones. Leave room in your schedule to bond with those who mean the most to you. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — A changing economy will keep you on your toes with regard to investments. Time you spend researching and develop- ing your financial plans will be well spent. Use and market your skills with precision. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Use your initiative. Waiting for someone else to lead the way will slow down your prog- ress. Step up to the plate and make things happen. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Attend local cultural events, or head to regions that inspire you. Investigate the neighborhood or an unfamiliar destination in order to discover something out of the ordinary. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — You can expand your job prospects and your circle of friends by becoming more involved in community affairs. New friendships will result in more exposure for your ideas. 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