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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»I'mina10- year relationship with a great gal. I've been di- vorced for over a decade. My partner can't stand being near my ex-wife. She was able to deal with her at my youngest son's wedding last year, but developed more disgust after that. Now that same son is graduat- ing from graduate school. My partner can't bring herself to attend the event and associated dinners, which my ex will attend. She wants no contact with my ex in the future. My older son will be marrying next summer and that may be an issue. Both sons live in the area. They typically do not invite their mother to activities that include my partner. What is the best way to handle this? She wants to inform both boys of her stance on this, but without discuss- ing her feelings. Any suggestions? —Confusedin Colorado DEAR CONFUSED » If your partner starts skipping events to avoid your ex, then I assure you your sons will intuit her feel- ings about their mother. When they hear her say, "I'm going to skip the graduation and every future event to which your mother is invited, for no particular reason," they will draw the correct conclusion. You don't provide any details about the bad blood, but with two sons living locally and getting married and perhaps having children at some point, your partner is moving in the wrong direction. She should become more — and not less — able to tolerate her de facto stepsons' mother. As it is, her refusal to at- tend functions where the ex is present will be an ongoing stressor. Your partner is a grown-up. She should definitely stay home if she wants to. But it can be quite easy to deal with people at ceremonial functions like graduations and weddings. You just nod hello, smile for the camera and avoid close contact by engaging with others. DEAR AMY » I grew up in a family much like that described by "Wondering Daughter," whose mother never paid attention to her children or grandchildren. It took time, several bouts of therapy and the stark contrast of my wife's loving, caring, con- nected and joyful family to understand that my mother was suffering from profound emotional and psychological damage and that these behaviors were simply her coping methods for containing whatever terrible secrets she took to her grave as life's damaged goods. Your advice to Won- dering was excellent. Mom is not going to change or offer any un- derstanding as to how she became who she is. Life's too short. Keep your heart focused where it belongs and life will unfold as it should. — Pappy DEAR PAPPY » You are wise and wonderful. Thank you. 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