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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Verylatein life, after marriage to an executive (now deceased) whose career always came first, I married a wonder- ful man who loved his first wife very much. She was his soul mate. My husband and I are very much in love and desper- ately want to enjoy our few remain- ing years together. Early in our court- ship he gave me a tiny gold heart that I wore night and day until I learned he had given the same necklace to his wife. When asked why he gave me the same thing, he said, "Because (first wife) liked hers." He has told me that I am his "everything" and that I am "the best thing that ever happened to him" — phrases that meant so much to me until I learned he'd also said them to his first wife. He once likened me to an opal with many facets. Today I learned that he spoke of his first wife with the same imagery. These phrases were so precious to me and now they mean noth- ing. Counseling has been unsuccessful and both counselors (men) said the problem was mine. I don't want to go through that again. How can I get over feeling so terribly "sec- ond"? And how can I bury this "ghost of marriage past"? —Brokenhearted DEAR BROKENHEARTED » If you bring the same problem to two dispas- sionate professionals and both offer the same reaction, then you should not blame their gender — or shop for a third opinion. You should as- sume that they're on to something. Furthermore, I agree with them. Without a doubt, your husband made a boneheaded blunder regarding his gift to you. But — can you for- give him for loving you as much as he loved his first wife? Think of the heart necklace as a metaphor. Your husband loves you so much that he is giving you the same heart (HIS heart) that he gave to her. You two should start some new traditions. Go somewhere together where neither of you has ever been. Give him time to settle in to creating a unique marital experience with you. And, if you can manage to forgive him for his mistakes and bury your own resentment toward him, you will find that the ghost of his former wife will gradually fade. DEAR AMY » I just finished a session with my teenage son's therapist. As the one-year mark of his sui- cide attempt approaches, we discussed the extra support he needs as he works through this an- niversary. "Ripped-Off Mom's" concern over her child not receiving her due in terms of birthday gifts was certainly the comic relief I needed as I help my son cope with his clinical depression. — Life Provides Perspective DEAR PERSPECTIVE » This is an anniversary to cel- ebrate. Thank you for pro- viding this perspective. Woman feels second fiddle to husband's deceased first wife You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Gemini(May21-June20) — Willingness and positivity are important factors in any business venture, and they will be recognized and rewarded handsomely. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — People from all different walks of life share the same trials and tribulations, and compassion and understanding come in all shapes and sizes. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — You will receive false informa- tion. Do your research and find out what's going on behind the scenes. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Lessen your workload by solicit- ing help and calling in favors. You will not be disappointed, and the resulting alliances will lead to good fortune. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — The more you do for others, the greater the rewards. You may not get paid, but you will receive recognition and admiration. You will be recommended highly for an interesting position. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Financial gains are in the pic- ture. Get involved in something that you have been considering for a long time. Don't sit on the sidelines, hoping for the perfect moment. Act now. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Your budget will be stretched. Resist the spiel of a scam artist offering instant wealth. Carefully considered investment and saving strate- gies will pay off. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Don't allow boredom to sour your mood. Enhance your routine by joining in a local sporting or cultural event. Your efforts will be appreciated and new friendships will evolve. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Emotional matters will inter- fere with your career. Keep your mind on the job at hand. A close friend will be able to shed some light on a problem you face. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Romance is in a high cycle. Let someone you love know your intentions and plans for the future. Sharing will bring you closer together. If single, get out and mingle. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Reduce your stress level by staying active. Make changes at home that will increase your comfort level. Insurance, legal or personal documents need to be updated. Strive for efficiency and convenience. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Unsettling matters should be put to rest so that you can enjoy a little personal time doing the things you like most. Evading issues will lead to worry, stress and ill health. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, MAY 30 SATURDAY, MAY 30, 2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 7 B