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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»I'ma20- year-old female from a rural area. I was always a "target" because I dressed differently and have been outspoken about my ideals and standing up for others. However, I was never very open about my sexual orientation. I felt like I always knew, but at the same time I didn't know how to figure it out. When I was 17 I went to a party; there was a girl there I liked, but she came with a guy. At some point, she came over and just started kissing me and it was like magic. Then the guy came over. It turns out she wasn't interested in me, but was doing something he had talked her into. That was my only experience with another woman — but I know I'm bisexual. I came out at school to some friends, but no one took it seri- ously. I even came out to my family — but my mom is the only one that took it seriously. I have been in a relationship now with a man for a year and a half. I love him, but I feel like a part of me is missing. Turning 20 is a wake- up for me. I'm figuring out what I want to do in my life (and friends are getting married). The guy I'm with takes my confession of being bi as, "You're just bi-curious." I'm thinking about asking if we could take a break so that I can try and find myself, but I'm terrified that if I do the door will close entirely. Should I "come out" again and hope I'll be taken seriously and that he'll support me? —L DEAR L » My instinct is that you are very eager to be "taken seriously," because you believe this outside validation from others will somehow answer your own very im- portant questions about yourself. But here's the thing — no one will ever take you seriously until you no longer need to be taken seriously. When you stop "coming out" and start simply being out — without definition and validation — others will accept you and take you seriously. And by then it won't matter so much. Ask yourself how you would feel if your guy told you he wanted to take a break in order to be with men. Wou ld yo u be o pen to taking a sexual sab- batical? Or would you see this break as a break-up? The only way to test the waters is to be honest about it. You are still growing, maturing, and figuring out who you are. I hope you will always stand up for yourself the way you say you stand up for others. DEAR AMY » I disagree with your response to "Revolted," who com- plained about her hus- band urinating into the bathroom sink. Maybe she should be happy he got out of bed before relieving himself. — Steve in Calif. DEAR STEVE » Lowering one's expectations past the basement level is cer- tainly one way to cope. Woman needs to stop coming out — and simply 'be' out You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Gemini(May21-June20) — Don't allow a minor disagree- ment to escalate. A reexamina- tion of the events will reveal you may have overreacted as well. Be willing to compromise. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Put some distance between you and uncooperative or moody people. A good way to avoid controversy and complaints is to keep busy taking care of your responsibilities. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — An unforeseen event will have a strong influence on your direc- tion. Someone with something to offer will tempt you. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — With the right preparation, you will outshine the competition and win the respect of your col- leagues and superiors. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Recent emotional matters will bring you down. Disregard critical comments or judgmental people. Spend time with the people who love you, and don't worry about material things. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — It's time you put your talents to good use. Connect with creative individuals and develop a one-of-a-kind idea. Social events will turn out to be quite informative. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You will be tempted by an unusual offer. Be sure that you have all the facts straight before you make a commit- ment. Things are looking up financially. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Join a group that shares your moral and ethical beliefs. A humanitarian or environmental cause is a great way to expand your friendships and test your leadership skills. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Don't allow a dose of nostalgia to ruin your day. There are many avenues to explore and lots of interesting people to meet. A younger individual will provide inspiration. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Consult your financial adviser about ways to reduce debt and increase your savings. The knowledge you gain through a business meeting or trip will be most helpful. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Don't go public regarding your personal secrets. You need to do some soul-searching to discover how you really feel before you share anything with others. Don't fold under pressure. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Romance is on the rise. Revitalize your self-esteem with a personal update or makeover. You will turn heads and receive interesting offers if you get out, socialize and share your ideas. Horoscope By Eugenia Last WEDNESDAY, MAY 27 WEDNESDAY,MAY27,2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B