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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihavea neighbor who is usu- ally kind, thoughtful and pleasant. He will go out of his way to help anyone. H e p r e s en ts a n i m ag e a s a helpful, caring person to everyone in the com- munity, but some of us see another side. He is belligerent when he deals with his immedi- ate family, especially his wife. She will leave the house, some- times in tears, and walk around to give him time to cool down. She has occasionally shared what has happened with me. Sometimes the physi- cal or emotional abuse involves their teenage daughter. He seems to expect perfection from them and is quick to criticize. He hates being late. Shortly after he and his wife were married, he be- came exasperated by her repeated tardiness. They were going to be late for a game with friends. In an attempt to hurry her, he gave her a shove at the top of the stairs and she fell down them. She was bruised and in pain. On other occasions when he's been angry, he has hit her or thrown things at her. I have offered to discuss his behavior with him, but she is not willing. She tells me I can only bring this up if I personally witness something. I am afraid for this family but don't know what to do. —Concerned DEAR CONCERNED » Your neighbor is a bully and an abuser. Giving one's wife a little shove down the stairs should lead to jail time, not a reputation as a "nice guy" in the community. From the way you word this, it seems that the wife is practically begging you to report him — but she is afraid of retaliation. The fact that she is open with you about this vi ol en c e i s a v er y im p o r- tant first step. Invite her to your house and ask her to talk to a counselor from the National Do- mestic Violence Hotline while she is with you. The group's excellent website offers online and telephone help, 24 hours a day. Because she has a daughter at home she may try to stay in this marriage, but at the very least she needs violence counseling and he needs anger management for his explosive temper. If you EVER witness any kind of violence be- tween them, you call 911 first and explain later. DEAR AMY » Oh, my God, that letter from "Old but Young Man" made me crazy! He has had sex with his wife for 50 years and now — due to illness — she doesn't feel like it, and he is feeling sorry for himself! And the poor guy has to turn to porn. He should be grateful he still has his wife and they can kiss and cuddle. There are many of us out here who would love to be able to do just that, and sex wouldn't even enter the picture. Count your blessings, buddy. — Miss Her DEAR MISS HER » Amen, brother. 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