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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iam64;my wife is 62. We are empty nesters. My wife and I are intimate most often on Saturday and Sunday mornings, often Wednes- day morning when I have a day off, and occasionally at other times as well. I have ED issues, which I deal with successfully. My wife retired last year. She has a habit of always setting up sexual ex- pectations of me: "Oooh, the week- end is coming," or "Yay, Wednesday morning you're off work," or, "We get to stay in bed on Friday ..." I usually tell her to just live in the moment, and to stop looking forward. She gets plenty of hugs, kisses, and grabs throughout the week. She believes she has the greatest life and is happy and fulfilled. I am happy and content as well, but I am more centered, seem- ingly without the extreme highs and lows that she experiences. She does this forward-looking excited thing not just with sex, but with nights out, vaca- tions, parties, etc. Last night she did this morning-sex-expectation thing. I didn't react with similar glee, so she got mad and I launched into an honest conversation asking her to please stop setting up these expecta- tions because if we don't follow through (rare) I don't want to disappoint her. Typically, she over- reacted: "OK, I'll NEVER say those things again," which to me was a very unfair response. After several failed attempts to get her to understand my point, I told her she was nuts. Is my reaction normal? —Livinginthe Moment DEAR LIVING » If you ask your wife not to speak to you in a certain way and she responds with, "OK, I'll NEVER say those things again," don't dou- ble down and question her tone. And do NOT tell her she's "nuts." You and your wife are temperamentally quite different. She is effusive and you more reticent. Mainly I assume this dif- ference inspires wonder- ful chemistry between you. However, you are taking her excitement and encouragement as pres- sure to perform. Given your ED issues, I can imagine this is stressful. Explain your situation to your wife this way: Her excitement creates "sex- pectations" and stress, making it tougher to make the magic happen. DEAR AMY » I'm respond- ing to "Dejected," whose husband never compli- mented her. I've recently realized that both my husband and I respond in an unhealthy and inappropriate way to compliments. When he says something positive I should accept it with- out trying to convince him that his observation is incorrect, and when I compliment him, he should do the same. — Barbara DEAR BARBARA » Some men have responded that their wives are terrible at accepting a compliment. It's good that you and your husband are work- ing on this. Wife's enthusiasm creates burdensome sexpectations You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Taurus(April20-May20) — A change of heart is appar- ent. Circumstances will not be in your control. You should cut your losses, face the situation honestly and move on. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Don't make excuses or justifi- cations for your behavior. Keep thoughts to yourself until you have found a trustworthy ear. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You will accomplish a lot if you concentrate on what you need to do without disrupting what someone else is trying to accomplish. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — You will be successful at what- ever you pursue if you focus on what you are trying to achieve. Improving your work or home environment will be uplifting. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — If you embrace change, you will find plenty of opportunities to meet compatible and interesting people. You won't find anything if you sit alone at home. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — An older friend or relative will be demanding or burdensome. Be cooperative and accommodat- ing, but point out that you have your own responsibilities. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Enjoy the moment. Plan a day of pleasurable entertainment with your special someone. If you are unattached, head out to a new venue where you can meet other singles looking for companionship. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Getting ahead profes- sionally should be your goal. Put uncertainty and doubt behind you and get ready to move forward. If you believe in your abilities, so will those you encounter. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You will have trouble making up your mind. Put any unimport- ant decisions on the back burner for now. A quiet day of reflec- tion will help you sort out your feelings and chart your course. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Don't try to live your life by someone else's rules. Your outlook, priorities, family and beliefs are unique to you alone. What works for another person isn't likely to work for you. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Rethink your old plans and ideas. Don't hold yourself back out of habit. Check out different options in order to discover an interesting opportunity. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Don't be drawn into gossip or negative thoughts when work- ing with others. Being a team player is an important compo- nent if you want to advance. Your employer will appreciate your maturity and discipline. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, MAY 9 SATURDAY, MAY 9, 2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 7 B