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I am very frustrated and upset. —AnOldbutYoung Man DEAR YOUNG MAN » Ac- cording to an overview of medical studies published by the National Institutes of Health, well over half of all women over the age of 50 report significant changes in sexual func- tion and libido. If medical problems caused your wife to lose her mojo, then medical intervention may help her to get it back. She should see her physician and dis- cuss possible remedies. You should strive to be an active and intimate partner to your wife through this challenge. Can you hold, hug and kiss her in bed without pressing for sex? This might help to relieve some of the stress for both of you. While view- ing pornography might relieve your immediate frustration, it could also be an impediment to your intimate connection. Feelings of shame or guilt are not healthy feelings to take into your long and loving marriage. DEAR AMY » My husband and I have been married for six years. We have three sons. We have endured every single trial a mar- riage/relationship can go through, but my husband seems not to have any motivation or drive for our life together. I've tried motivating him, pushing him, and leaving him, and nothing seems to light a fire under him. I was working three jobs, going to school and was pregnant with our last child — and I did it all for our family, but my husband just doesn't understand the concept of sacrificing anything to provide a better life for me and our children. I'm at a loss about whether to keep fighting for this marriage. — Getting Tired DEAR TIRED » Your job is not to mother him or manipulate him into com- pliance, but to deal with what you have in front of you. Aside from his employment situation, is your husband a respon- sible and loving father? If so, you might have to ac- cept that his contribution will be as a homemaker, rather than a financial provider. If you genuinely believe that leaving the marriage will be best for your kids, then you should consider doing this. However, don't make empty threats as a way to try to force change. Illness interrupts mojo of couple married over 50 years You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Taurus(April20-May20) — There will be hidden factors influencing those around you. Examine any ulterior motives that might be lurking behind the scenes before you share information. Get a clear picture before forming a long-term partnership with someone. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — A lifestyle change will pay off. Improvement to your health will increase your energy, allow- ing you to enjoy your favorite pastimes. Get out with friends or a loved one. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Group activities or short trips will inspire you. Make the most of your creative projects. An experienced colleague will give you tips on how to grow your personal finances. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Personal issues can be resolved if you are willing to compromise. Don't expect forgiveness if you have neglected to honor a promise. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Contributing to charity will involve more than just a dona- tion. Offer your time or talent to the cause of your choice. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Don't confuse helpful hints with critical comments. Take heed of the people who are trying to help you get ahead. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Tap into what others have to offer and keep moving. You will pick up many important tips if you listen and learn. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Legal, administrative or governmental agencies will cause headaches if you aren't prepared. Keep all of your impor- tant documents up to date to avoid unpleasant consequences. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Don't get coerced into a dispute. Refuse to revisit an unpleasant discussion or to speculate about what might have been. Deal with the here and now. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — You will feel depressed and upset if you think others don't understand you. Say what's on your mind. If you cannot pin- point the problem, you won't be able to fix it. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Channel your energy wisely. Don't rush to get things done; take your time and do them right the first time. Missing important details will lead to delays and disappointment. Aries (March 21-April 19) — You will be anxious about financial matters. Stick to your budget, but keep an eye open for discounts or bargains. This is an ideal time to check out a property investment. 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