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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ilostmy husband in a motorcycle accident in August 2014. Since then I've moved cross country to be closer to family and friends. I recently recon- nected with my very first boyfriend. We have been together constantly and are whole- heartedly in love. The prob- lem is my adult son, with whom I am currently living (along with my younger daughter). I had great anxiety about how my friends and family would react to our situation, but everyone has been nice and says it's great to see me smiling again. My husband left my son his favorite work-in- progress — a muscle car that needs a lot of work. This would be the only thing that my son wants help with from my new boyfriend, who is very knowledgeable about restoring old cars. My son is generally rude and very distant toward my boyfriend, but now that he knows he could get this muscle car up and running he acts just nice enough to get help. I've asked him numer- ous times to just sit and talk with my boyfriend, but he won't soften up. It's causing a lot of unnec- essary stress in our lives. What do you suggest? —ConfusedMom DEAR MOM » A lot has hap- pened in all of your lives in less than a year. Take a breath, relax and give everyone time to grieve, try to recover and learn to move on — each in his own way and time. Many men find the idea of "just sitting and talking" intimidating, unnatural and frankly impossible. If your son is one of these people, then "doing" (vs. talking) would be an easier way for him to communicate with and get to know your new guy. If you didn't already have a muscle car in the driveway, I would suggest getting one as a way for the se two men to work alongside each other and connect. In this context, "Pass me the socket wrench" would qualify as a connection, and you should encourage both men to pursue it. Understand your son's ambivalence about your love relationship. Urge him to try to soften and be gentle with himself. Once he is, he'll soften toward others. DEAR AMY » I was shocked at your answer to "Trou- bled Teen," the 15-year- old girl who was being sexually harassed by a man at church. You actu- ally suggested that if he enters a room, she should leave it! If she does that, she is basically handing over her power. She should look him straight in the eye and tell him if he touches her she'll scream. — Disappointed DEAR DISAPPOINTED » Your suggestion is won- derful — and unrealistic. My goal is to keep this teenager safe, and the only surefire way for her to stay safe is not to be in the same room as this man — and to tell other trusted adults about what he is doing. Relationship solution could be sitting in widow's driveway You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Taurus(April20-May20) — Difficulties with a family member can be resolved if you are willing to compromise. Being too stubborn or pushy will cause tension and lead to a stalemate. Be willing to meet halfway. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You will be tempted to mix busi- ness with pleasure. A co-worker will intrigue you, but don't get too chummy or you will jeopar- dize your reputation or position. Consider the consequences. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Stay clear of someone who wants you to bankroll an en- terprise. You work too hard for your money to toss it away on someone else's dream. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Someone will try to smear your reputation. Don't divulge too much about your personal life or current plans. If you play by the rules, you will come out on top. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Focus on your occupation. Your superiors will be quick to react if you spend too many working hours trying to solve your per- sonal woes. Address such issues on your own time. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You will be bewildered by a current situation. End the anxi- ety by getting in touch with the person causing the problem, and work to find a solution. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — You won't have a problem convincing potential partners to back your plans. Put your best foot forward and seize the moment. Your knowledge and determination will make a posi- tive impression. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Don't expect something for nothing. Make sure that you know what's expected of you before you make a commitment. A misconception on your part will be costly. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Residential improvements will add value and comfort to your home. One of your favorite hobbies can be turned into a successful enterprise. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Someone has an interest in what you have to offer. Some planning and imagination can improve your financial status. Present your ideas to a potential source of support. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — A disappointment is likely if you trust a sales pitch. Get all the details before you go ahead with a personal change. A rash decision will lead to regrets. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Showcase your talents. The positive feedback you receive will make your confidence grow. A personal relationship will take a positive turn. 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