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Iwaswatching one of my favor- ite speakers this morning and she was talking about highly sensitive people and the dif- ficulties it causes being in relation- ships with them. I suffered from this for many years and it took a willingness to look at my own behaviors to stop the madness. Highly sensitive people find that they are at odds with people on a frequent basis. They often times allow the smallest things to fester in their minds and cause them cer- tainty that they are be- ing wronged, slighted or marginalized. At times, highly sensitive people at- tribute meaning to some- thing someone says or does to them personally and they become certain that the other person is mean, wrong or insensi- tive to their needs. Highly sensitive peo- ple are difficult to be in relationships with be- cause they require a lot of consistent feedback to feel good about them- selves. They rely on exter- nal information to gauge if they are in good stand- ing with their peers, their family and the commu- nity. They tend to take things that have noth- ing to do with them per- sonally. They are usu- ally very opinionated and compare themselves with nearly everyone in one way or another. Live and let live, is not on their ra- dar. It is extremely diffi- cult for them to let things go without a lot of dis- cussions that usually feel draining to those in rela- tionship with them. Highly sensitive peo- ple are very defensive and feel personally attacked when faced with any form of criticism. Even the most constructive criticism, given with ten- der care is received with defense. It can be emo- tionally overwhelming to be in constant compan- ionship with a highly sen- sitive person. If any of the examples above feel like a descrip- tion of your relationships, you may be prone to sen- sitivity. The good news is aware- ness is most of the battle. Once you accept that you have the traits of a highly sensi- tive person, you can set about re- ducing your im- pact on others and set- ting yourself free from the pain of feeling misun- derstood and at odds all of the time. Generally, high sensi- tivity comes from a time of life where your basic needs were not met and you internalized that you didn't matter. Your ego resists this notion and sets about protecting you by making sure you ver- balize your stand on any- thing that you perceive pertains to you, whether or not you are accurate and whether or not you repel others in the pro- cess. Your ego convinces you that any thoughts you have or actions you take are justified because the ego feels like it has your best interest at heart. If you love some- one who is highly sen- sitive there may be lit- tle you can do to offset their behavior without their consent. Trying to set healthy boundar- ies can feel like rejection and spiral the sensitive person into their defense mode. This can look like anger, depression and other attention seeking behaviors to alleviate their anxiety. No one can change without wanting to. Whether you have iden- tified yourself or some- one you love as highly sensitive, you can find re- sources to help smooth the edges. I recommend the book The Highly Sen- sitive Person by Elain N. Aron. FaydraRector,MA is a mental health administrator, author, public speaker, educator and life coach who lives in Red Bluff. She can be reached at lifecoach@shasta.com or view her blogs at faydraandcompany. blogspot.com/ and allaboutdivorce.blogspot. com/. FAYDRARECTOR Areyouahighly sensitive person? Faydra Rector COURTESYPHOTO Red Bluff Elks Lodge No. 1250elected Sharon Stone as exalted ruler and her officers on March 28. Pictured, from le , are Treasurer George Carroll, Leading Knight Robin Barley, Chaplain Lafe Kincaid, Exalted Ruler Sharon Stone, Loyal Knight Pat Craig, Inner Guard Ray White, Secretary Lee Shopie and Trustee Reese Fernandez. ELKS LODGE NEWLEADERSELECTED The following informa- tion is compiled from Red Bluff Police Department, Red Bluff Fire, Tehama County Sheriff's Depart- ment, Corning Police De- partment, Corning Fire, CalFire and California Highway Patrol logs. Arrests JeramyA.Bowers: 27, of Corning was arrested Thurs- day on North Street, cross of Rio Bravo, in Corning and booked into Tehama County Jail on the felony charge of resisting an executive of- ficer and the misdemeanor charges of obstructing a public officer and vandalism. Bail was $19,000. Jennifer L. Williamson: 31, Twin Falls, Idaho, was ar- rested Saturday at the Red Bluff Auto Dismantler and booked into jail on the felony charges of illegal posses- sion of tear gas, domestic violence and assault with a deadly weapon: force not firearm: great bodily injury likely. Bail was $95,000. Jose Angel Sanchez: 33, of Los Molinos was arrested Friday on State Route 99W, north of Tyler Road. He was booked into jail on the felony charge of DUI: Drugs and the misdemeanor charges of possession of a smoking device, driving while license suspended or revoked and violation of promise to ap- pear. Bail was $80,000. Sanchez was involved in a four vehicle collision that briefly backed up traffic and caused minor injury to one person. He was headed north on 99W when he dri ed into the southbound lane. Scott Allen Duffer: 30, was arrested Tuesday, April 21, in the area of State Route 99W in Gerber. He was booked into jail on the charges of battery with serious bodily injury and threatening with a weapon. Bail was $53,000. A mutual attraction to a woman lead to an incident in which an- other man reported he was attacked by Duffer, causing severe injury to the man's face a er being punched. The man also said Duffer threatened him with a knife prior to the man leaving the residence. Burglary 3000block Illinois Ave- nue, Corning: A home being remodeled suffered damage of window screens bent out and a window on the front door pried out to make access sometime between 11:30a.m. Friday and 1p.m. Saturday. Items stolen included a red Porter Cable air compressor, three gray Porter Cable finish nail guns, a gray Porter Cable framing nail gun, a yellow DeWalt miter saw, two yellow cord- less DeWalt drills, a gray Cra sman radial arm saw and a DVD player, valued at a total of $1,800. Damage to the window screen was an additional $50. 16000block Penner Road, Red Bluff: A .380 caliber FEG Union pistol, a silver and diamond antique wedding ring, a black stun gun and about $100in cash, total loss of about $3,500, were taken from a locked residence sometime between 8a.m. and 9a.m. Thursday. The s Hickory Street, Corning: Extra patrol was requested Saturday a er a man dis- covered fuel had been stolen from his vehicle sometime a er 1a.m. Marin Street, Corning: Two windows were broken and clothes, two bicycles and a large Rubbermaid container were taken some- time between Saturday and Sunday. Crash Jellys Ferry Road, cross of Oakwood Drive: Sarah Incorvaia, 24, of Red Bluff was taken to St. Elizabeth Community Hospital with minor injuries following a crash into a PG&E power pole, shearing it off at the base, before hitting a fence. POLICE LOGS The Sofia, Bulgaria, cor- respondent of Reuters Tele- gram company says that Yanne Sandausky, the Mace- donian brigade leader, who gained notoriety in 1901 through the kidnapping and holding for ransom of Miss Ellen M. Stone, and Amer- ican missionary, has been slain by unknown persons. Sandausky was killed in the district between the moun- tain of Perun and the town of Neveremkop. Sandausky, the man re- ferred to in the above dis- patch, was one of the lead- ers of a large Macedonian rebellion against Turkey which occurred at the time Miss Stone was kidnapped and he was assisted by other leaders of the rebel- lion, named Sarafoff and Garvanoff. The men held Miss Stone for a large ran- som which was finally paid by Turkey after the United States, of which Miss Stone was a subject, sent several warships to Turkey and po- litely requested that country to produce her. N. Nicols, a resident of Red Bluff, employed in the tailor shop of W. A. Brown, knew Miss Stone and also knew and fought under the men who captured her. Nicols is a Bulgarian, and with thousands of his coun- trymen went from Bulgaria into Macedonia and enlisted with them as volunteers in their struggle against Tur- key. The Macedonians and Bulgarians were Christian and the uprising was caused by the persecution and mas- sacre of the Macesonians by the Turkish followers of Mo- hammed. Bulgaria, as a nation, was in sympathy with the Mace- donians, who were then un- der Turkish rule, but was not strong enough to openly support their cause. Nicols was only seven- teen years old when he en- listed as a volunteer but did splendid fighting in de- fense of the Christians. At Monastir he was engaged in constant fighting for three days and night, and several times because of his youth and strength, was used in the most dangerous places. In speaking of his experi- ences he is very modest, and did not mention, un- til asked particularly, hav- ing received a bullet wound through the shoulder, scars of which he still carries. Nicols is familiar with all the inside history of the Macedonian affair and also the kidnapping of Miss Stone. Being a Chris- tian Missionary, she was in sympathy with the Mace- donians. They were pov- erty stricken as a result of the continued persecutions of the Turks and sadly in need of funds to carry on their fight. She entered into the plan of being kidnapped quite readily, knowing she was perfectly safe in the hands of her captors, and feeling certain that Turkey would be obliged to pay the ransom demanded for her return. Thus through the paying of the ransom Tur- key was pouring money into the hands of the leaders of the rebellion. — April 28, 1915 100 YEARS AGO... Red Bluff man tells inside history of kidnapping N. Nicols was only seventeen years old when he enlisted as a volunteer but did a splendid job of fighting in defense of the Christians. Take15%offyourmeal with this ad dineinonly 723 Main St. 527.5470 www. palominoroom .com PrimeRibonFridaysnights Open Tues-Sat NorthValleyPlaza 801 East Ave. Chico, CA 95926 530-343-8923 April 27 - 30 10 am to 5 pm Johnson's Shoes any regular priced pair of SAS shoes Valid through April 30 $ 15 off You'reInvitedto View Our NEW Handcrafted Styles & Colors J O I N U S T O M E E T T HE T E A M ! 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