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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mysister "Nancy" has been in an off-and-on relationship with "Sid" (both are 30 years old) for the last eight years. At times it has been a long-distance situation. A year ago Nancy got pregnant with his baby. Before and throughout her pregnan- cy, Sid has been ver- bally abusive and a bit physically abusive. He also has cheated and lied to Nancy on more than one occasion. I know he does not like me or my family, but he is always charming to our faces. After a brief time apart, Sid is back in my sister's life. I do not wish to have this guy around me, or in my home, but I also don't want to lose my sister and nephew. I want to be supportive of my sis- ter but I've had enough. How do I approach this? —HadEnough DEAR HAD ENOUGH » There is no such thing as being "a bit" physically abusive. There is only the first shove, which leads to the first slap, which can segue into something worse. You should make it abundantly clear to both "Nancy" and "Sid" that you are aware of what is going on, and that you are worried about both of them and especially about their child. They should both understand that if you witness any physical fighting, you will call the police. You should expect both Sid and Nancy to punish you for your willingness to bring this out in the open. Sid will be furious because you know his nasty secret. Your sister may reject all of your ef- forts to help her because of the complicated nature of her own motives. You should NOT cut off contact with this fam- ily, and as much as you despise Sid, you should not forbid him from visit- ing your home. If he is charming when he is with you, then all the better. DEAR AMY » I keep think- ing about a response you gave to a woman who wanted to know whether it was worth a " thir d conversation" with her husband to try to save her marriage ("Checked Out," March 2013). My husband and I lived together for 10 years before we married. I moved in with him the night of our first all-day date. Our first five years were extremely tumultu- ous, with several separa- tions. We knew we had something but didn't know what to do with it. After we chucked all the crap — like control, trying to change the other person, dirty fighting, etc. — we concentrated on building what we knew we could have. We recently celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary! Marriage is not for the faint of heart, but is a third conversation worth it? Totally. — Happy We Prevailed DEAR HAPPY » Let me borrow from the cheesy Kenny Rogers classic, "The Gambler." When it comes to marriage, you really DO have to know when to hold 'em and (also) know when to fold 'em. Family wonders how to respond to abusive partner You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Taurus(April20-May20) — Shake up your routine. Get in- volved in a hobby that motivates you. Revisit a project that you set aside because the timing wasn't right. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Doubts about a current relation- ship will need to be analyzed. If your feelings have changed, you have to be honest with yourself and your partner in order to fix what's wrong. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Don't punish yourself by stick- ing with an unhappy situation. You can improve your career options or personal relationships if you are willing to take decisive action. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Meetings or social engagements will bring you in contact with a potential partner. You will discover valuable information regarding your idea for a home business. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Tension in your personal life will stress you out. Moodiness or self-pity will not help your situ- ation. Discuss your concerns. Getting problems out in the open will lead to a solution. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You will get back as much as you put in. Offer the world a joyful, helpful attitude. Share your good mood with people you want to spend more time with. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Stick to your agenda and don't get sidetracked by taking on responsibilities that don't belong to you. Make your pri- mary interests your first priority. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Be cautious if you are traveling. Focus on the jobs you are responsible for, and don't stop until you are finished. Distraction will lead to a minor mishap or injury. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Add some excitement to your life. Do something out of the ordinary with a close friend or loved one. Take in a sporting or cultural event. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Personal relationships, your dream job and where you would like to live should all be reflected upon. Decide what positive steps you can take to reach your goal. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Not everyone will be honest with you. Expect someone to take credit for your work. Let others know what you have been up to if you want to gain positive recognition. Aries (March 21-April 19) — It's up to you to make things happen. Don't let anyone dis- suade you from following your dreams. Pursue your goals with determination and enthusiasm. Horoscope By Eugenia Last TUESDAY, APRIL 28 TUESDAY,APRIL28,2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B