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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband and I recently lost a baby at 23 weeks. This was painful, both physically and emotionally. We have faced not only with deal- ing with our grief, but also dealing with health complications. During this entire experience we were extremely upset by the lack of response from fam- ily members who know we were go- ing through this. My husband has a sib- ling who is going through a pregnancy. We also have cousins with small children who have not acknowledged the miscar- riage. We are extremely thankful many mem- bers have helped see us through these challenges. We're at a loss for how to deal with those who have shown no support and who have not ac- knowledged that this ter- rible thing has happened. What should we do to get over this and move on? —Appalled DEAR APPALLED » Not acknowledging your loss is wrong. Unfortunately some people deal with their own discomfort by becoming paralyzed — or by trying to ignore an uncomfortable experi- ence in the hopes that the discomfort eventually will go away. Family members going through a healthy pregnancy — or with children of their own — may feel self-conscious, believing that their acknowledgment of what you have been through will only highlight their own good fortune. And so now it is left to you to ameliorate their discomfort by being transparent about your own. It is so unfortunate that grieving people often find they are forced to lead the way in guiding others on how to cope. Being honest about your own needs should help you feel better. DEAR AMY » My husband, children and I moved in with my in-laws. It has been a learning experi- ence. The hardest part is that my mother-in-law cooks with old, some- times moldy produce and expired canned goods. I have gotten sick a few times and it's just not OK with me. I'm not "allowed" to say anything because it could "hurt her feelings." My mother-in-law is always treated with kid gloves, and no one allows anything negative to be said to her, so I would be "completely out of line" if I said anything. We alternate cooking dinner, so at least I get clean food half the time. What do you suggest I do or say? — Scared to Eat DEAR SCARED » You might influence this without rocking the boat if you offer to do all the food shopping for the house- hold. If your mother-in- law has fresh ingredients, she will use them. If you have a local farmers mar- ket, take her with you and both pick the produce. You don't say whether she insists on doing half the cooking, but one way to repay your in-laws' generosity would be to step up in terms of cook- ing and housework. Painful loss by miscarriage is ignored by family members You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Aries(March21-April19)— A small side business will bring in the extra income you need to ease your financial stress. Don't allow unpaid bills to add up. Get in touch with a financial adviser. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — You should stay cool today. Don't let an oversensitive atti- tude dictate your actions, or you will ruin your plans. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Profit can be yours. An energetic approach will help you take care of unfinished business. Helping someone in need will bring an unexpected reward. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You will be tempted to take on too much. Keep your schedule flexible so that you will be able to deal with unanticipated mat- ters. Don't feel guilty. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — There will be underlying prob- lems regarding your work. Stick to your tasks and don't offer opinions or make judgments. The less said, the better. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Your confidence is blooming. Everyone will want to hear your ideas, so present them with en- thusiasm and humor. Someone who can make a strong impact on your future will show interest in you. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Beware of joint ventures that involve giving more than you get. A close personal friend will not turn out to be a good pro- fessional partner. Devote your energy to your goals. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — You'll end up riding an emotional roller coaster if you aren't careful. It's a good time to stay on the sidelines and observe what others are saying and doing. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You may lack energy, but you should resist the temptation to take it easy. You will accom- plish much and gain respect if you complete all of your responsibilities with alacrity and efficiency. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You have a unique sense of fashion. Some innovative but inexpensive ideas will result in an updated personal look. The reaction you get will boost your confidence. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Household demands will have family members feeling anxious. Take on projects that will make your surroundings more comfortable and convenient. A common goal will ease tension. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Don't hold back when it comes to telling your friends and loved ones how you feel. It will improve your relationships and bring you personal rewards. Horoscope By Eugenia Last TUESDAY, MARCH 24 TUESDAY,MARCH24,2015 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B