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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myfamily drove six hours to visit family over Christmas. Upon arrival, we were informed that one of their children had been ill with the stomach bug since the day before. We ended up spend- ing the holiday with their entire family (including three kids, both parents and a grand- parent) sick and run- ning to the bathroom. Once home, all three of my children got the stomach bug. My wife and I will get it soon, no doubt. Is it wrong of me to be extremely upset with the family we visited for not notifying us immediately when their first child fell ill so WE could decide if we should visit? I feel it was disrespectful to keep that information from us. I feel as though we are all now unnecessarily suf- fering due to their selfish desire not to miss out on a Christmas visit. Any advice? —FuriousDad DEAR DAD »These hosts absolutely should have given you a heads up about their child's illness, but before you confront them with your fury, please take a moment to consider what it was like for them: Every member of their household was sick while they were hosting a family of five in their home. You should thank them for their hospitality in such challenging cir- cumstances and ask them (good-naturedly) to notify you if something similar happens in the future. DEAR AMY » I am 18 years old and live with my parents. My sister is 22 and she lives with us periodically, usually for a few weeks at a time. She has an anxiety disorder and several other mental health issues. She simply can't handle life sometimes, but she will not seek treatment. When she is at home, she yells and screams. She verbally abuses every family member and more than once has gotten physically violent to the point where the police were called. Recently she hit me in the face. My parents won't kick her o ut becaus e she is unstable and they fear she may hurt herself. She insists that we should not get angry with her because she is ill, but I'm at the end of my rope. I no longer feel sympathy or love for her. I don't want to just take her abuse. Am I a terrible person? Should I just accept her behavior because she is sick? — Angry Sister DEAR SISTER » You are not a terrible person. You (and your parents) are experiencing the tough reality of life with a family member who has untreated mental illness. Because your sis- ter will not seek help, yo u r pa re nt s s ho ul d se t boundaries and introduce consequences for some of your sister's choices. For instance, if she keeps bouncing back home, they should insist that she can't stay at home unless she seeks treatment. Your folks must pursue profes- sional help and support for the whole family. Dadwisheswarningwas given before holiday travel You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Capricorn(Dec.22-Jan.19) — Take care of responsibilities you've been neglecting to avoid an emotional confrontation. Getting your duties out of the way will be appreciated. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Make the most of your time by being helpful and showing concern for others. Join forces with an organization that re- flects your values. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Don't feel guilty turning down invitations or requests if you need some time to yourself. You do so much for everyone else. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Shake up your routine and par- ticipate in a community event. Stimulate your imagination and make personal changes. Romance is amplified. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Flashing large amounts of cash will give someone the wrong impression. Pay your own way, but don't try to convince people you are something you're not. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Don't be shy; you should discuss your dreams. Unnecessary and costly delays are likely if you are unprepared or disorganized. The suggestions that people offer you will help you cut corners and succeed. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Make sure you receive all the required information before you offer your opinion or advice. Don't allow a minor letdown to escalate into a major incident that could leave you in a pre- carious position. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — You owe it to yourself and your loved ones to let loose and have a little fun. Plan a surprise and shower the people you love with your affection. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Self-improvement plans will bring good results. Feeling fit and healthy will boost your con- fidence and give you a positive mindset. It's time to put your needs first. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Don't let personal issues lead to indulgence. Excess will end up contributing to your troubles, not eliminating them. Ask for help or draw on your inner strength to help you overcome negative influences. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — A decision you are toying with will be easier if you investigate the pros and cons first. Con- frontations will not turn out in your favor. Remain an observer, not a participant. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Don't fall for a sob story. Being too trusting will end up costing you physically, emotion- ally or financially. Don't offer your time, opinion or money. 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