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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iama65- year-old divorced, profes- sional woman. I have a great career, a teenager at home and three other children who are grown and living on their own. I was married to a man for over two decades and we had a nasty divorce about 15 years ago. Since that divorce, I have had two five-year relationships with women. This may seem strange but, after all these years, I find myself attracted to males again and believe my personal- ity and behavior are more compatible with men. My friends are sup- portive. My children have always thought of me as bisexual. I have a divorced male friend and colleague of several years and he knows me only as a lesbian. We are both self- employed mental health practitioners and we cross paths at workshops, in town, etc. I have always felt his attraction to me, but when I was with women I never considered pursu- ing anything. How can I say that I am not lesbian anymore without sounding weird? —Searching DEAR SEARCHING » Given your history of fluidity concerning your sexual attractions, I don't think you should make any proclamations about "not being a lesbian anymore." It seems most accurate for you to describe your- self as bisexual and open to attractions with men and women. Here's a sample email: "Hi George: I thought the workshop we attend- ed was fascinating, but a little too long. It might be fun for us to team up to do a presentation for the next one (whenever it got slow we could cut to a cat video ...). "Regardless, I'd really like to meet outside 'the office' one of these days. Are you interested in having coffee/a drink sometime soon? Please let me know." DEAR AMY » My mother- in-law is having a long- distance affair with a married man. The two dated as teenagers 50 years ago. He tracked her down last summer and they have been exchang- ing very intense romantic emails, phone calls and videos. He has visited her once for a long weekend. He tried to keep their relationship a secret but his wife found out. That couple still live together. He has told my mother-in-law to limit her email communications to him and also not to ever call him (he calls her). He tells her they will be to- gether someday and that his heart belongs to her. She believes him. She is deeply in love and clings to his every word. What should I do? She already knows how I feel about it. Should I bite my tongue? — CG DEAR CG » There is no cause for you to "do" anything. You obviously worry about the impact of this relationship (and you can express this to her), but otherwise you should patiently bite your tongue and offer the proverbial shoulder to cry on. 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