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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iwasmarried over 40 years. My ex-wife and I had numerous problems throughout our marriage. I left several times b ut a lwa ys went back. The last time I left, I filed for divorce. It's been a few years and I am starting to miss her. We talk briefly every once in a while, most- ly because of our grand- children. I am currently living with a divorced woman. We get along great but never talked of marriage. Lately my live-in men- tioned getting married. It has hit me like a ton of bricks. I don't want to. I want to go back to my ex. I don't know if she'll take me back. If my current relationship falls apart, I have no place to go, but I don't care. I don't know how to go about talking to my ex about going back to her. I don't even know if she will take me back. —Torn DEAR TORN » Your pattern of leaving and reconcil- ing with your former wife seems to be continuing. Because you have no spe- cific reason to believe she is interested in reconcil- ing, you should see this as a pattern that is about you (not her). You could assume that even if you did reconcile with your former wife, you would then eventually want to leave again. Put yourself in the place of the woman who lives with you and presumably loves you. How would you feel if you wanted to commit to your partner and she wanted to bounce back to her ex? You should be honest with your current partner. If marriage is not in the cards, you must tell her. This is an ideal matter to sort out in therapy. DEAR AMY » I am a 26- year-old male who has been married more than two years. Recently I have found myself being very distant and resentful about our relationship. She has an aggressive personality and I feel that I have no say or control in our relationship. When I was younger I liked hav- ing an aggressive woman in my life but now find that this is not what I want. I am afraid of the financial and emotional tear that asking for a divorce will cause — not for me but for her. I care for her (she is the mother of my beau- tiful son), but I find myself no longer in love with her. When I bring up counseling, she says, "What's the point?" I have also recently found myself attracted to another woman at work, although I have not acted on it and do not plan to do so until I solve my problems at home. What should I do? — Hurt Husband DEAR HURT » Couples counseling could do you both a world of good. Attraction happens when you feel important, valued, appreciated and wanted. This is a quality you may feel is lost — but you can get it back. You have a child. Do not give up on your young m ar ri ag e u nt il y ou h av e tried your hardest to save it and improve it. If your wife won't go to counsel- ing, go on your own. Bouncinghusbandwantsto bounce back to ex-wife, again You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Sagittarius(Nov.23-Dec. 21) — Long-term connections and valuable information will come your way from a social or business gathering. You will receive admiration and approval. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You will have good luck when it comes to money matters if you have scrutinized the details carefully. A joint venture is worth looking into. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Love and romance will be on your mind. Now is the time to make a commitment or promise to someone important to you. Follow your intuition. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Someone you trust is likely to betray you. Collect your thoughts before doing anything you may regret. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Great achievements can be made. Strike a deal, take on a new challenge, complete a creative project or engage in romance. Take the initiative and don't look back. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Make sure all the cards are on the table before signing up for a partnership or collaborating with someone. An unpleasant surprise is likely if you don't do your research carefully. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Social media makes it easier than ever to get in touch with an old friend. It will be refresh- ing to talk to someone who understands your background and shares your ideals. 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