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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»I'verecently had multiple dreams where I cheat on my girlfriend. I've never been un- faithful to her or any pre- vious girlfriend, and I've never really even consid- ered it. However, in the dreams I am totally aware that I'm in a relationship, but I still "hook up" with these girls, usually an ex or a fe- male friend of mine. In my dreams I feel guilty but I don't stop. I'm worried that this dream behavior could transfer over to the real world. Is this likely to happen? What should I do about it? —UnfaithfulDreamer DEAR DREAMER » To illus- trate my take on this, let me borrow a favorite line from the movie "Working Girl": "Sometimes I sing and dance around the house in my underwear. (It) doesn't make me Madon- na. Never will." You are not your dreams. Your dreams do not "transfer over into the real world" or dictate your behavior in your waking life. Your dreams are an ex- pression of your subcon- scious. Sigmund Freud thought that dreams were an expression of "wish fulfillment." Can you enjoy these fantasies, knowing that they are only fantasies? These dreams could mean you are feeling seri- ous about this relation- ship and you are anxious about the commitment. Their real meaning is revealed in how you use them to understand yourself better. You could do this in a more cogent way with the help of a psychologist. DEAR AMY » I am a woman in my mid-30s. I s t ar te d da t in g a n e w man eight months ago; he seemed wonderful. Recently I have real- ized what a Jekyll and Hyde character he is. When we are out with people he is fine, but behind closed doors he is verbally abusive (and in texts and over the phone). He has also been physi- cally abusive, shoving me. I have since ended the relationship. Going forward, how do I quiet the voices whis- pering that what he said is true? How do I ward off the nosy parkers? — Disillusioned DEAR DISILLUSIONED » You don't provide details about this guy's shoving you, but if you were as- saulted you should go to the pol ice. It won't surprise you that abusers are liars and cowards. So there's that. You have to realize that the audiotape of put- downs you are replaying in your head is evidence of his insecurity that he has transferred to you. Please don't let this guy continue to punish you in his absence. If you can't quite recover from this, it would be great for you to see a counselor for a time. It would help. Don't worry about nosy people — just tell them the relationship didn't work out. I also think it might be a good idea to print out screenshots of the texts, seal them in an envelope and then delete them. 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