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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myfatherand I have a rather skewed relationship. It feels more like employer and employee than father and son. My father is a farmer (he also grew up on a farm). He has another job that brings in most of our family's income, but has the farm too. We sell home-grown produce. He spends his time doing his job, tend- ing to the farm or selling produce. He doesn't give himself much time for other things that I think are more important, like spending time with his family. However, the farm is too large for him to operate alone, so my sib- lings and I have to work. He says we are obli- gated to help him. I feel more like an employee and less like a son. When I was younger, I didn't have much of a problem with it, but now he relies on me more than anyone else because I'm the oldest. This got worse when I was home-schooled for a year. I ended up feeling jealous of my siblings when they caught the bus every day, and I stayed outside helping him. How can I feel more like a son and less like an employee before I head off for college? I have no love or respect for him, but he doesn't know that. —EmployeeinIdaho DEAR EMPLOYEE » Like you, I grew up on a family farm. I understand your situation deep in my (tired) bones. Your father is replicat- ing the childhood (and probably the father/son relationship) he had. It's what he knows. The father/son dynamic can often be highly charged — especially in family-run businesses. You have been hold- ing things in for so long that you've imagined the only way to alter this relationship is to blow it up. But relationships are built through small moments. You might start by asking your dad to describe his own father. Your perspective will change somewhat once you leave home. Try say- ing, "Dad, I feel like an employee. I want to see you more as my dad — and not my boss." DEAR AMY » I am a young adult about to purchase my first home. I am never going to have a large wedding — or maybe any wedding at all. Is it completely gauche to register for household items for myself for a housewarming? — R DEAR R » I don't think it's tacky as much as awkward to register for household gifts, because once you register, how will you notify people of this one-time opportunity for them to spend money on you? Pe r ha ps yo u h a ve a family member who will help you throw a "kitchen shower," held at the new house. When people ask what you need, you can direct them toward your registry. Note: This is some- thing you can only do one time — when you are in your permanent home. 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