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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»My18-year- old son started college this year. He has a part- time job and is paying for a new car to drive to scho ol 30 mile s fr om home. He lives at home, but makes bad choices by smoking pot! I have asked him to stop many times but he chooses to continue to smoke. I need advice. I know if I kick him out and take the car away he will drop everything he's been working for. —DisgustedDad DEAR DAD » I understand the parental fear that your child will essentially punish himself to defi- antly declare that "you're not the boss of me." At 18, your son's brain is still growing and devel- oping — which provides an explanation for his behavior (older teens tend to have poor impulse con- trol) — as well as a great reason not to smoke pot (his brain still needs time to mature). If your goal is to keep him at home during this maturing phase, you should appeal to his semi- independent self by talk- ing about this rationally. Tell your son, "You know I don't want you to smoke pot. It is illegal in this state. You are under- age. It fries your brain. I realize I cannot control your every move, but I cannot tolerate you using at home. This might not seem reasonable to you, but that's the way it is. Do you understand?" Give him time to respond. Then you should tell him, "Here's how it's go- ing to be. If I find out you are using, you're going to have to move out. I don't want this to happen be- cause I really like having you here. But you're mak- ing choices, and I have to make choices too." DEAR AMY » This issue has been "eating" at me for years. When my brother and his wife invite us to dinner, they ask us to pitch in money to defray the cost of the food. My brother is well off and has a vacation home. When we visit his vacation home, we are basically asked to cater a dinner for him and his wife, friends, in-laws and anyone else who happens to be there. This can be costl y. I have never asked anyone to pay for food when I invite them to my house for dinner. I might ask someone to bring dessert or wine but never a check or cash for the meal. Should I start charging them for dinners at my house? — Fed Up DEAR FED » If you are a guest for more than a couple of nights at some- one's vacation home, then you really should contrib- ute a meal. Otherwise, your brother's expecta- tions are strange. You could retaliate for th is i n h os pi ta b le tr e a t - ment by doing to your brother what he is doing to you, but that would only prove that you are capable of being as rude as he is. And wouldn't it be easier — so much easier — to talk to him? He's your brother. His behavior is confusing to you. So use your words. Father worries son will lose control of life to marijuana You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Don't judge others. You will receive information from an unlikely source. 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