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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myadult daughter, 23, suffered a bout of severe alcohol de- pendency two years ago. She went through rehab successfully, and today she remains sober. She is under the care of a psychiatrist who only adjusts her medications. In going off alcohol, however, she turned to food and has become obese. While she recognizes the problem, she will not or cannot do anything on her own. She is with a long-term boyfriend who enables her eating disorder. My wife and I are con- cerned about her physical and mental health, but we do not know what to do. If you have any advice on how we might help this wonderful young woman, we would be grateful. —Discouraged DEAR DISCOURAGED » It sounds as if you have been supportive in urging your daughter toward re- covery. It is her responsi- bility to do the hard work every day to stay sober and manage her health. Addicts have a tenden- cy to find enablers. At 23, your daughter may not yet have the maturity to fully understand her own motivations, but she must take responsibility for her actions. If she says she's working on her weight issues, then you should believe her. Some of her meds may be triggering her weight gain; urge her to get a medical checkup. I hope she is partici- pating in regular group recovery meetings; sup- port me etings sh oul d be a part of her life for the foreseeable future. And — speaking of meetings — you and your wife need to get your- selves to Al-Anon. Like all concerned loved ones, you are searching for some- thing to "do" regarding your daughter's addiction. Ultimately, you cannot "do" your daughter into wellness. DEAR AMY » We invited our daughter, her hus- band kids and her in-laws to dinner. We invited them for 5:30. My daughter called to say they were running a little late. At about 6 p.m., just minutes before they were due to arrive, my husband became enraged and or- dered me to call them and cancel. (I didn't.) When they arrived, my husband locked himself in our bedroom and re- fused to see anyone. He said they had been disrespectful. He wouldn't even say hello to our two grandchildren when they knocked on the door to see their grandpa. My daughter was upset and began to cry, and everyone else felt terrible. They rushed through their meal and left. My husband is a stick- ler for punctuality, but I cannot understand his actions. Did he overreact? — Curious DEAR CURIOUS » Your hus- band did more than over- react. He went nuclear, and in the process he hurt the feelings of a lot of people. If this extreme behavior is out of char- acter for him, I wonder if there is something else going on. I hope you will take this seriously. Be compassionate. 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